February 24th, 2008 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Forgetfulness …..

Once there were two friends named Bhima and Arjun. They were so friendly that they used to forget everything when they used to sit together. They forget their food, sleep etc when they used to meet. They studied together from childhood. Their parents know each others very well. They are also happy with their friendship. Once they visited a garden with two badminton racket in their hands, while returning they sat for sometime in the garden, forget their racket in the garden. Bhima was more forgetful then Arjun. Bhima once lost his own purse when he was going with his daddy. Last year it was a great ——–. Both of them were travelling in a train from Sanpara to CST station. They forget their bag containing computer item motherboard costing ten thousand rupees in the train. Bhima brought same new items for his computer. Motherboard was giving little trouble. So he thought of changing the board. He called the person at his shop. The shopkeeper replied “Bhima it will take two days to repair, then if you go to Bellapur, the factory then they may replace it immediately”. Bhima did not have patience to wait for two days as he is very fond of computer and his exams were knocking at the door. He thought of changing it immediately. While returning from Bellapur both friends were so much diverted in talking that they forget the bag in the first class compartment. After getting down from the train, they started walking from the station without the bag, but did not notice even that they did not have their bag in hands. After fifteen minutes walk from the station suddenly they remembered the bag and ran for the train, by the time train left the station and they missed the bag. They went to station master and narrated the fact and given the written complaint but in vain. After half an hour Bhima gathered courage to call his mother at home. As soon as his mother heard about the missing, she could not talk anything and said “Now you know what you have to do, I don’t know anything” and she banged down the phone. After 10 o’clock they returned at home. By the time Bhima’s mother called up his uncle who was working with railways but she did not get any solution for it. Next day Bhima’s mother wrote a letter to station master to help them to find the lost items. Full day Bhima and Arjun again travelled CST and from there again they went to Bellapur and asked in every station but no result. Bhima came disappointed and mother asked “Do you want any computer again? I am telling you, I am not going to give you anything”. He replied “I don’t deserve anything” and went to his room for studies as his exam was knocking that time. After losing a big amount in this process he promised himself that he is not going to force his mother to give him anything he wants. He even promised that he was very forgetful from his childhood and now he has to become more alert for everything. He asked god to give him strength to overcome such bad quality. Forgetfulness is a disease, only medicine is to concentrate on the matter what you are forgetting, repeat the thing what you are having or you are carrying. Repetition is the most important procedure of forgetfulness.

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Defence Mechanism

February 13th, 2008 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

The word defence mechanism means to defend or to protect. Defence mechanism which help in protection against psychological danger.

Some of the defence mechanism are—

Radial Diagram

Defence Mechanism

1) Projection— In this mechanism, an individual puts the blame of his own failure upon others and some unfavourable factors of his environment. Blaming others for his mistake .e.g. a student comes late to the class excuses by saying that the bus or train was late or traffic jam.

2) Sublimation — It is a defence mechanism in which unacceptable desire are redirected into socially accepted channels. Participating in suitable co-curricular activities like scouting, social services for sublimating common instinct like sex.

3) Repression — Checking or restraining of natural desire or instinct. Repression implies denying one self of some need gratification with a view to escaping the pains of frustrating situation.

4) Regression — It means going backwards. It is a defence mechanism in which the individual adopt that behaviour belongs to the earlier age.

5) Rationalisation — An individual tries to justify his failure by giving some excuses e.g. A student makes use of rationalisation, when he tries to blame teachers for hard question paper.

6) Compensation — It is an attempt to cover ones deficiency in one field by exhibiting his strength in another field e.g. If a student is not good in his studies, may show his ability in sports.

7) Identification — It is a process which may operate outside and beyond conscious awareness. Hero worshipping by an individual is a sort of identification where an individual identifies himself with a popular hero or an actor.

8) Displacement — An individual does something as a substitute for something else e.g. If a wife gets angry with Husband and cannot say anything to him, she beats her child.

9) Withdrawal —- Some persons withdraw themselves from the circumstances that cause tension, frustration or pain e.g. If a person is being humiliated or laughed at, he may shut himself in a room and may not need any one.

10) Day-dreaming —- It is a defence mechanism which sometimes helps in making adjustment. Day-dreaming is to indulge in ‘building castles in the air’ or imagination e.g. A young man who has been jilted in love, dreams of becoming a bride groom and feels satisfaction in the imaginary world.

11) Sympathy — It is defence mechanism in which a person invites a sympathy or pity in others in a difficult situation.

There is a popular saying, “excess of anything is bad”. Similar is the case of Defence Mechanisms. They should be used with in limits. They are temporary. Therefore we have to keep a watch on our children so that should not use defence mechanism frequently.

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February 10th, 2008 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Tension or stress is the physical and mental state of a person. Stress creates excitement or instability. In this condition, people cannot work and think e.g. if a person is hungry, he becomes tensed and will go for searching food, when he gets his food, the instability of the mind goes away.

According to Gates and others, ’Tension is a state of disequilibrium which disposes the organism to do something to remove the stimulating condition’.
According to Drever,”Tension means general sense of disturbance of equilibrium”

Experts tell us that stress, in moderate doses are necessary in our life. Stress responses are one of our body’s best defence systems against outer and inner dangers. In a risky situation e.g in case of accident, body releases stress hormones that instantly make us more alert and our senses become more focused. The body is also prepared to act with increased strength and speed in a pressure situation. It is supposed to keep us sharp and ready for action.

Sources of stress

  1. Illness
  2. Death
  3. Excessive demand
  4. Aggressiveness
  5. Hard driving
  6. Workaholics
  7. Negative behaviour of other e.g. jealously
  8. Economic condition
  9. Physical condition

Direct Method of Tension Reduction

According to Gates and others :- “Direct methods are typically employed to solve a particular adjustment problem once and for all”.

According to Gate—To reduce the stress the following methods are used :-


  1. Destroying the barrier which is not allowing him to reach his goal e.g. The person who stammers can overcome his physical weaknesses by chewing.
  2. When a person cannot overcome his stress he tries to find out some other path to reach his goal e.g. If a child wants to pick up a mango from a tall tree, he takes a stick or throws stones to get it.
  3. If a person fails to get his primary aim, he changes his aim to reach his goal e.g. Due to rainy season, if the children cannot play outdoor games, they play some indoor games to fulfill their goals.
  4. If a person cannot decide the aims between two good options, then he should analyse or think of his previous experience to reach his goals e.g. If a good student cannot decide to choose his career as a engineer or doctor, he should analyse in which subject he is good – Maths or Biology.

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