Good Parenting

October 30th, 2007 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Good parenting is the way to bring the child up as a good human being and good citizen who can be a able future citizen.

Following are the ways of good Patenting:

  1. Praise the child if it does something good.
  2. Encourage  to do the work independently.
  3. Show love, not pampering (By telling stories of life,sharing,caring etc).
  4. Always trust the child
  5. Be friendly with the child
  6. Discuss family matter with it.
  7. Discuss financial matter. During vacation give the child the responsibility of all the expenses in the family and give him/her the money for that month ( Age group—15 on wards).That way they learn the responsibility and value of money.
  8. Accept the child as it is.
  9. Listen to the child if it is asking some questions, do not ignore .
  10. Share your emotion with him/her.
  11. Tell virtues of competitiveness.
  12. Teach in early stages of development. Learning stage from 2 to 15 years.
  13. Listen to his/her opinion. Make him/her realise  the importance of his/her opinion.
  14. Give importance to his/her decision and ask him/her to judge properly.
  15. Do not nag.
  16. Do not give too much or too less importance.
  17. Do not make school bag.
  18. Do not compare.
  19. Do not insult in front of anyone.
  20. Do not disagree\agree without reason.
  21. Do not create unnecessary fear.
  22. Do not always promise anything while completing any work.
  23. Don’t scold or insult in front of others or near younger siblings.
  24. Do not tell wrong about teachers in front of them . Otherwise they will never respect their teachers.
  25. Don’t differentiate .

26. Teach to respect the teacher even the teacher is old & not very efficient of online teaching.

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Today is the Best Day

October 30th, 2007 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Today is the Best Day

“According to Pandit Kalidas—- Yesterday is a dream, tomorrow is a vision, but today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of hope, therefore look well to this day”

The work whatever is pending should be completed today. Today is the best day for doing the necessary work. Sometimes waiting leads a heavy loss to a business. Every moment of our life should be analysed and go accordingly. Thinking, feeling and analysing is the best way to get success in life. If any problem comes, sit coolly, feel the situation, analyse it and then  do the action. So do not wait for tomorrow.

We know the story of Ram  and Ravan i.e. good wins over evil. On Ravan’s death-bed Ram wished to learn Politics from Ravan. As we know Ravan was a learned man fighting for justice always, he said “Do not wait for tomorrow, decide it today”

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October 30th, 2007 by Jashodhara Purkayastha


“Man is the highest creation on this earth and I give him special importance”

Rabindranath Tagore

Education is a tripolar process. It involves interaction between the pupil, the teacher and the social environment. The teacher tries to develop the overall personality of the pupil in the light of the needs of the society. Educationists are inspired by practical ending. It has practical end to attain growth in every aspect.

A small incidence took place in the researcher’s teaching life and the PELT took birth.

Raju failed in Std. III. He used filthy language in the class. Everyone in the school got fed up of Raju’s behaviour. His class teacher tried her level best by punishing the child, but in vain. On open-house day, his parents came to school and asked the teacher to take care of the child like a mother. That developed a new idea into PELT & enveloped her mind. This helped to take her first step.

She made Raju monitor of the class. Everyday with the help of other obedient children, she started praising Raju for maintaining the discipline in the class. He finished his given work quicker and faster, to get PRAISE from the teacher. The teacher also ENCOURAGED the child for his work. So the tree started blossoming and new leaves began to sprout.

Every day the teacher thought of a new plan .She even hugged the child, kissed him like a mother and thought little LOVE can change the life of a child. She tried to give whatever he did not get in his life.

The teacher TRUSTED him so much that she knew the child would do something better. Now it was time for October exams as first terminal. Raju completed his paper fast and happily submitted the papers. After the exam, vacation started for Diwali. The vacation got over and open house to show the papers to parents was fixed. On the open house day Raju was very confident. Looking at his enthusiasm, tears rolled down from teachers’ eyes and she thought — yes it worked. He passed his third std. getting 3rd rank, but did not forget to give a ROSE on every Teachers Day till his schooling.

This is PELT. Whatever cannot be done by punishment, can be possible only by PRAISE, ENCOURAGEMENT, LOVE and TRUST. Praise and encouragement are the flowers and leaves of a plant. A plant grows to a big juicy tree when love and trust are showered on it.

Human beings are born with some qualities in them but the environment sometimes is not favourable to excel their qualities. The teachers’ and educators’ first duty is to see and try to bring out the talent of the person.


Education is a purposeful process. Both the pupil & the teacher make efforts for achieving purpose or destination.

PELT can be used in any type of education, whether it is direct or indirect.

In direct education, teacher and taught are in direct contact. So PELT is needed for the pupil’s abilities and development. In informal education also, PELT is needed — though educator and the educand are not conscious about the process, fixed time table and fixed place. Even in nonformal education i.e. outside the formal system PELT plays an important role for development.


There are some principles of learning:-

  1. Learning to know
  2. Learning to do
  3. Learning by PELT
  4. Learning by sharing
  5. Learning by cooperation

A common metaphor in educational writing compares a teacher to a gardener. Gardener checks from roots to fruit. Teacher also carefully observes the tender changes in the pupil.


If we praise the pupil he eagerly does the work. Teacher can encourage the child to complete the task. Teaching is a multivariate process within which goodness is often relative. By sharing and trusting, the teacher can achieve the goal in any type of education.

Educand be motivated for receiving further education and teacher achieves her goal. Importance of teaching through PELT may be learner oriented and life oriented. PELT motivates the individuals’ growth, self renewal and maximising human potential.

Knowledge and information are two different things. Knowledge can only be completed if anyone learns something new everyday by keeping eyes, ears and above all mind open all the time. The term “adaptive behaviour” as understood in the field of education, plays an important role in any person’s life. When a child interacts with normal peers and sensitive teachers he gets exposed to wide variety of talents. It is necessary to employ a teacher who reads the mind of pupils. Orientation of parents is needed from time to time.

The childhood is the best time to use PELT so that later life produces juicy fruits to the mankind. If the childhood is nurtured properly, the Tree will grow with full of leaves, flowers, fruits and seeds will scatter here and there for many such healthy trees…


PELT works on the principle of universal learning satisfaction.

Thus I conclude:

Throw the words of motivity

Praise, Encouragement, Love & Trust

The first two are blossom of a plant

The next two are nectary

The little deeds of praise

The quality of life will raise

Climb a ladder with encouragement

Gaining various achievements

Love is universal Truth

There is no other way to Ruth

To meet Divine in trust

Or else life is worst

These words can produce

The amazing change in kind

Waves of happiness & peace

Make an ocean of mankind.


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Durga – The Inner Power

October 17th, 2007 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Durga puja is celebrated by every Hindu in different ways. In Gujarat, nine days are celebrated as Navratri  where “Nav’ means Nine & “Ratri” means Night. Why is it so     called? Puja is celebrated at night only. The reason is – darkness of night symbolizes ignorance. This ignorance  creates  fear, helplessness , so we can be trapped into Kam (Lust), Krodh (Anger), Madh (Intoxication), Lobh(Greed), Moho (Attachment), Matsar (Envy). Every person has some or the other bad quality. So in Navratri  we ask goddess to remove our ill qualities so that we can become a good human being.

In Bengal, it is celebrated as Durga puja for four days. Here women are given more importance & without the soil of prostitutes’ ground, the puja cannot be performed. This symbolizes that evil in society is saved by these women.

In every part of India, Durga puja is celebrated & ask “MAA” to take the devil qualities from us & show us the right path to serve the mankind.

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Learning & Clarity

October 7th, 2007 by swapan

An Executive staying alone in a big bungalow has only his valet to care for him and his house. One day he asked his valet, “We will have a small tea party in the evening, please bring cups” He handed Rs.1000/= and went to work. Yes he mentioned the number of cups. There was misunderstanding due to this number of cups.

The dialog could be, “Please bring sixty cups” OR “Please bring six tea cups”. In the evening the inevitable happened when the valet brought 60 cups although 4 friends turned up for the small tea party. Hence the talk between tell & hear requires a better communication.

The same is with the taught and the teacher. The best student is one who imitates the teacher by digesting every act & word. The learner should repeat before the speaker every dialogue thus clarifying the future action. A child starting from school till going to work place must relate the incidences that has taken place through out the day else where. This act develops a good relationship and understanding. Asking to clarify by the speaker is the best way of communication.

Many a time distraction or lack of interest will make a speech unheard. A long duration can also keep it out of mind and the job could be forgotten. It is better that the talk is grasped by using all the senses of Seeing, Hearing, Saying, Touching, Tasting and Writing. The speech should be made attractive by judging the type of audience, duration and period, so that all are alert. The very important part would be to study the listener before the act. The thing registered in the brain from every angle is more lasting. We must stress on subject implying the importance. Also use more expression by eye contact and voice modulation for clarity.

The speaker has to clarify at every step before proceeding to avoid misunderstanding or else the Listener will loose interest and attention.  Every person has a view to express because we are born with a unique Mind just like a unique Body (e.g. finger print)

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