Overcome Anger

August 27th, 2007 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Once upon a time, there was a man who used to get angry very quickly. In his workplace, at home, everywhere, he was famous for his anger and as a bad tempered person. On the other hand, he had a servant who was very polite and used to be happy with whatever he had.

One day, while sitting for dinner he did not like the food which the servant, Ramu had prepared for him. Immediately he got angry and threw the plate of food from the table and left the house.Next day when he went to his office and found that his secretary did not reach the office. As soon as she entered the room, he started shouting at her at the peak of his voice. The secretary tried to make him understand politely the reason for her being late, but in vain.

It was the everyday’s chore in this man’s life for many years. Even he was tired with his anger, but couldn’t help it. So one day while he was resting on his chair, the secretary kept a note on the table asking him to meet a person who could help him with his erratic mental state.

When he found the paper, he thought for a moment and called the person. The lady who received the call immediately gave him an appointment. At about 7pm, he reached her place and rang the door bell. Someone opened the door and then disappeared from the room. He was waiting for an hour but nobody came there. When he was about to leave the room, one lady with a smiling face entered and apologized for her delay. She introduced herself as “Durga” and asked his name.

The man described his condition of mind. Durga said, “Whoever comes here, I give them the same suggestion. If you like it, then you can also try it”. She started telling the man that anger can be controlled in 3 ways:

1.) Firstly, when you get angry, you can look at the big toe of your feet
2.) Secondly, you can go to the kitchen and drink a glass of water
3.) Thirdly, you can go to Dr.ALI

“Who is Dr. Ali”, the man asked. “Yes, yes, I’m coming to that point”, said Durga. ‘A’ for ALI, means you  ACCEPT, that you got angry. ‘L’ means you have to LOOK at yourself for the reason and ‘I’ means INTROSPECT, why you got angry? “These processes are nothing, but to divert  yourself from the situation. You can try and see the result”, said Durga.

The man went home quickly and asked his servant for a cup of tea. After Ramu brought the cup of tea, the man asked, “Ramu, don’t you get angry when I shout at you”? Ramu didn’t say anything and went away with a smile. After sometime when the lunch was served, the man got angry again on Ramu and shouted at him at the top of his voice. Ramu didn’t say anything and left the house. Looking at this, the man followed Ramu with curiosity. He suddenly saw Ramu walking swiftly towards a hillock. The man followed him and found him standing near a banyan tree. He saw Ramu talking very rudely with the tree and shouting at the tree. After sometime Ramu looked at the sky and started laughing. Ramu returned home from there with a smile.

Looking at this, the man realized the reason why Ramu was peaceful and happy. He had learnt a lesson.

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3 Responses

  1. Mahua Chakrabarti Says:

    Anger management should be a way of life. It is like pursuit of music. It requires a focussed strong will power to do so.
    I can identify myself with Ramu about 60 % and with the angry man 40 %.This story will go a long way in transforming the 40 % to a negligible amount.
    I thank you for this.

  2. prabha Says:

    My son is ramu and the husband is like a angry man. Sometimes I also like a angry man. I will try to reduce all anger from our family member & I am very thankful to get this type of message from your web. Once again thank u mam.

  3. Swapan Purkayastha Says:

    This story demonstrates well the base as Ego. Humbleness is always appreciated.
    Anger is a negative Energy which increases to destroy everything into oblivion slowly diminishing every goodness, love and sympathy to a final Zero without a hint.

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