Sensual Crave

August 30th, 2007 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

The Math (Temple) is full of devotees with Swami Ramkrishna is sitting in a corner and all people are asking his blessings. people are waiting in a queue for his blessing.

Smiling face, eyes are glowing, tall, well-built, swami is very young. May be his age is around 31 yrs. Very soft spoken, affectionate, everyone wants to be in his care. Very caring, animal lover, tree lover, talks everyday with trees and flowers while watering them. He has a dog named Moti who wags his tail whenever he sees the swami from a distance.In the ashram, there is a shed. Cows, goats, buffaloes are very happy with him. They feel lucky to have a master like swamiji.

Swamiji’s life started in a Shetty family in South India. His name was Rajkumar. His parents affectionately called him Raj. Brilliant in his childhood, he used to play the mridangam and flute very fluently. In school, he was a quite child, not interested in sports. He had a very good handwriting in school. He used to write poems from his childhood. Once he recited his own poem in school about peace for which he got the first prize. He has once elder sister named Pratibha who is seven years elder to him. He used to love and respect his sister very much and used to look upto her in life.

When he was twelve years old, he used to think of things which a young lad thinks. They think about the woman’s body and always have something destructive on their minds. This boy was also not an exception. he used to think and see T.V and was curious about the female body. One night he became wet due to this thinking, but couldn’t tell it to anyone. But it was supressed in his mind, and due to this condition, it made him unstable at home and outside. he was restless and spent half of the time in bathroom or toilet. Nobody noticed this behavior of his at home.

One day his sister’s friend Rani came to their place. She always used to come to her friend’s house. But this time when she came, she saw Raj in a different mood. She sat in the drawing room with a magazine because Pratibha was not at home that time. Raj told her, “You sit, didi will come soon”. He sat near her and tried to put his hand on her thigh. She did not tell anything, but only observed. As soon as Raj saw that she was not telling anything, he tried to go deeper. Immediately Rani caught his hand and with a sensible and affectionate voice she said, “Raj – Kaam, Krodh, Madh, Lobh, Moh, Matsar are bad qualities in every person. We have to overcome these by thinking about their reasons. You should not control them all of a sudden, but slowly understand them.” She gave a nice example, “If a bucket full of dirty water is put under an open tap of fresh water, after sometime you will notice that the water in the bucket has become clean with the flow of running water. So do not try to control these in one moment. Try and analyze these for yourself.” On that day after this incident took place, Raj became restless and was only thinking about Rani’s words. He started reading a book on Shiva and how Japa would overcome the lust in one person. He also started reading many other spiritual books. Then, when he became seventeen and was studying in his twelve standard he left for Mount Abu to find answer to questions that he had in his mind.

He took the permission of his parents and went to Mount Abu. His parents never thought that he would become a swami. After reaching Mount Abu , he informed his parents through AkalSwami that he had taken “Sanyas” and will never come back to family life again.

His parents became happy and proud oh his decision, but felt sorry for missing him. They were consoled by the neighbours that such parents are rare that give birth to a child who becomes a saint and serves the society. Raj became Swami Ramkrishna and is world famous today. Rani became his first devotee when he returned from Mount Abu after prolonged sadhana of 12 years. She fell at his feet with tears in her eyes. Looking at her, swamiji only put his affectionate hands on her head and blessed her.

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August 29th, 2007 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

All of you must have heard the story of the “Goose that laid golden eggs”. But you still cannot leave the greed and greed doesn’t allow you to live happily without it.

My story goes like this… Once a man, who had three daughters was suffering from diabetes at the age of forty. The man was fat and clumsy and loved to eat any kind of food. He would daily visit some restaurant and enjoyed eating delicious food. But he would never take his family out to the restaurant. After coming from the restaurant his wife would ask him, “Where did you go today”? and he would answer, “Nowhere, was working at the office”. Looking at his wallet his wife would ask, “Today you’ve spent a lot of money” and he would answer, “No! No! In my office, there is a poor clerk, who has five daughters. One of them is getting married. I have given him some money”. The wife would get very happy listening to this and would say, “My husband is broad-minded and always thinks of helping others”. She used to feel proud of him.

One day his eldest daughter Reeta went to college and with her mother’s permission, she went out to watch a movie with her friends. While returning home, she and friends decided to go to the restaurant. She called home and told her mother that she would be late coming home since she’ll be having dinner at a restaurant. As soon as she entered the restaurant, she saw her father with two sweet dishes and a pav-bhaji near him. She did not say anything to anyone, but requested her friends to go to some other restaurant and her friends agreed and left.

When she reached home, she saw her father reading a newspaper. She asked him, “Papa, how was the gulab jamun”? Her father got shocked, but didn’t say anything. Her mother asked him about the money and he again bluffed something else like other days. Reeta heard this and felt very bad about it.

After some days, Reeta and her mother were coming from the market. They saw a crowd gather near the bus stop. Everyone was peeping into the crowd, but nobody was telling anything to anyone. Reeta suddenly screamed, “He is my Daddy!” and ran near him. She with the help of a few other people picked him up and took him to the nearby hospital. Immediately he was taken to the I.C.U and put on monitor. The doctor did some quick tests and informed her mother that the blood sugar was very very high and his condition was serious.

Next morning, when they checked on him, he was still unconscious. After three days, he gained consciousness and recovered a little. Reeta asked him, “Papa the other day, I saw you at the restaurant eating sweets”. He nodded his head and apologized to her. The doctor said, “He should not talk much and needs rest”.

Next week, they took him home and while coming home Reeta’s father’s eyes were full of tears. Looking at him, Reeta could not control her tears. After coming home, he said, “I really troubled you like anything. And it’s all because of my greed”. I now promise I will not eat anything that’s harmful to me” and started weeping…

So what happened here in the story. Due to greed, you tell a lie. Due to greed, you fall into a trap. You do not just affect yourself, but also your family and loved ones. Finally we need to understand that “Greed is a sin and sin leads to death”

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Human Being

August 28th, 2007 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

What role do we play in this world?
As a mother, father, teacher or human being.

Mother gives birth to a child
Feeds the baby with sleepless nights
Father takes care of the family
Ensuring whole-hearted support.

Teacher plays a gardener’s role
Sowing seeds to selecting fruits
Nurture values, virtues in a sound healthy manner.

But it is difficult to be a right human being
Everyone should make an effort to be a selfless human being.

Selfless human does his work without expectations,
Doesn’t bother for fame and name, delivers social work,
Helping is his only motto, without caste, creed or religion.

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Overcome Anger

August 27th, 2007 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Once upon a time, there was a man who used to get angry very quickly. In his workplace, at home, everywhere, he was famous for his anger and as a bad tempered person. On the other hand, he had a servant who was very polite and used to be happy with whatever he had.

One day, while sitting for dinner he did not like the food which the servant, Ramu had prepared for him. Immediately he got angry and threw the plate of food from the table and left the house.Next day when he went to his office and found that his secretary did not reach the office. As soon as she entered the room, he started shouting at her at the peak of his voice. The secretary tried to make him understand politely the reason for her being late, but in vain.

It was the everyday’s chore in this man’s life for many years. Even he was tired with his anger, but couldn’t help it. So one day while he was resting on his chair, the secretary kept a note on the table asking him to meet a person who could help him with his erratic mental state.

When he found the paper, he thought for a moment and called the person. The lady who received the call immediately gave him an appointment. At about 7pm, he reached her place and rang the door bell. Someone opened the door and then disappeared from the room. He was waiting for an hour but nobody came there. When he was about to leave the room, one lady with a smiling face entered and apologized for her delay. She introduced herself as “Durga” and asked his name.

The man described his condition of mind. Durga said, “Whoever comes here, I give them the same suggestion. If you like it, then you can also try it”. She started telling the man that anger can be controlled in 3 ways:

1.) Firstly, when you get angry, you can look at the big toe of your feet
2.) Secondly, you can go to the kitchen and drink a glass of water
3.) Thirdly, you can go to Dr.ALI

“Who is Dr. Ali”, the man asked. “Yes, yes, I’m coming to that point”, said Durga. ‘A’ for ALI, means you  ACCEPT, that you got angry. ‘L’ means you have to LOOK at yourself for the reason and ‘I’ means INTROSPECT, why you got angry? “These processes are nothing, but to divert  yourself from the situation. You can try and see the result”, said Durga.

The man went home quickly and asked his servant for a cup of tea. After Ramu brought the cup of tea, the man asked, “Ramu, don’t you get angry when I shout at you”? Ramu didn’t say anything and went away with a smile. After sometime when the lunch was served, the man got angry again on Ramu and shouted at him at the top of his voice. Ramu didn’t say anything and left the house. Looking at this, the man followed Ramu with curiosity. He suddenly saw Ramu walking swiftly towards a hillock. The man followed him and found him standing near a banyan tree. He saw Ramu talking very rudely with the tree and shouting at the tree. After sometime Ramu looked at the sky and started laughing. Ramu returned home from there with a smile.

Looking at this, the man realized the reason why Ramu was peaceful and happy. He had learnt a lesson.

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Expectation brings unhappiness

August 23rd, 2007 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Once a eleven year old boy asked his mother, “If I work hard will I succeed?”. Mother said, “Definitely! Hard work always pays”.

The boy started working hard in his studies and expected something good from it. This way the school exams started. He wrote the papers well and was very happy. After all the papers he asked his mother, “Am I going to do well in the exams?” His mother replied, “if you have worked really hard, it will pay”. Hearing this the boy became very happy.

Within a week his papers were shown. In the class he did not utter a word. He came home from school to his mother and started sobbing.

His mother asked him, “What has happened my child”?  He could not answer anything. After sometime he stopped crying and said, “You always lie. You are not telling the truth. hard work never pays”. Mother immediately understood what the child wanted to tell. She said, “Child, you did not understand what i said to you, you should work hard without expecting the result. When you expect something first and then work, you always become unhappy”.

Expectation bring unhappiness. So always remember work is worship. Whatever work you are suppose to do, you do it wholeheartedly, you need not worry about the result. It will automatically happen. So the child hugs his mother and says, “My mother is the best in the world”!

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August 22nd, 2007 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

GOD is the supreme being who is governing, directing, regulating and controlling the universe. Without his presence or permission no leaf can shake, no wind can blow, no tide of the sea or wave of the ocean.

The situation becomes paralyzed without the power of the supreme. Everyone in this world has come as an actor with the guidance of the Director (Supreme). No one can add an extra dialogue in it. Whatever is give, that has to be played by the actor. Only thing that the actor can do is beautify the role by giving some expression on iy, so that no one from the audience gets a chance to throw tomatoes or stones on the screen. So play the role without any err or sin

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August 20th, 2007 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Looking at the far horizon
Standing near the sea,
It seems like a shining light
Coming towards me

I was thrilled to see the glow
And walked towards the water very slow,
Pinching at my hand to watch
Whether it’s true or dream

Smile and tears rolled together
As if the sun and rain together showered

Thinking at last, I’m lucky
To see HIS piercing image

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