When I started reading the book ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ by Louise Hay, a question raised in my mind, can we really heal our life? I started experimenting myself. After five chapter, I got  mouth ulcer near my lips and it was really painful. I thought if I follow the new pattern that she has mentioned in her book, it may subside and go away. I started saying this in my mind for several times for atleast two to three days. My condition worsened more. I felt feverish. Ulcer widened, I was really unwell.

I searched internet for Home remedy, started following one or two, but in vain. I joined  yoga class for regular practice but ulcer is in the same condition. Then I realised that I have to find out my own cause of suffering. As I myself delved in spirituality from young age and followed the goodness of onself and others, I began to analyse myself. In every step of my life, I analysed and did the things and always went ahead. I always listened to my own conscious and did the work. As we live in the society, we have to sometime listen to  other people also. But I have noticed one thing that whenever I listened to others and not followed my own conscious, I did a mistake and suffered.

 So while writing the previous topic on my site — For the students — I saw the quotes of  Swami Vivekananda and started working on consciousness more. Then I realised, I may have scolded or got angry with someone, when my house was full of guests few days back. The ulcer, though its there yet, is diminishing very slowly.

 I realised,  due to our own action we suffer in life. Due to our own action, we enjoy our life physically and mentally. We all are different entity in this world. We all are born with certain natural phenomenon, certain Sanskar. Accordingly, we behave and act.

Reading books, gives us some information but our life is different, our experiences are different, our living style is different, our way of thinking differ, so is our Action-Reaction.

To the students—–

1. Time is very precious. Time will not come back. You have to wait for the right time and opportunity.
2. Haste is waste. Don’t hurry in life. Wait for the right opportunity.
3. Everyone born in this world has some purpose, search and analyzes that purpose.
4. Don’t forget your own capacity.
5. Don’t compare yourself with other, you are an individual. Don’t kill your individuality.
6. You are the best in your own way. You are the best, doesn’t mean that others are worst.
7. Envy kills oneself.  Try to do the work on  your own way.
8. Don’t try to follow anyone; you are the best in your own talent. Find out the way.
9. Negative thought never grows, it pulls you down, and  the thought which grows upward is positive thought.Reap the  positive thought.
10. Limit your work load.
11.  If you are not sleeping for 7 hours, you are playing with fire, even if you have low stress.
12. “Those who brood on the past and never live here and now, this is the cause of their suffering.” So live in the present.
13.  If you feel that, you are a child and you are learning in every moment, from everyone, you are learning forever.
14. Discuss each and every moment with your family and dear ones.
15.  Smiling and Laughing is the best medicine forever.

 At the end I end it with swami Vivekanand’s words—

 Teach yourselves, teach everyone his real nature, call upon the sleeping soul and see how it awakes. Power will come, glory will come, goodness will come, purity will come, and everything that is excellent will come when this sleeping soul is roused to self-conscious activity.

As a mother, I gave birth & showed you the light of the Earth,

You crawled, you stood, you ran and climbed the train’s Berth.

I spent many sleepless night when you had high fever,

Next day took leave from work,neglect you never.

I sat with you to teach the lesson but can’t help you to learn,

Everywhere I was there with you to help and not to get any burn.

In each and every path of life, I gave you the direction,

I gave you freedom in every step to take a proper decision.

I taught you the right and wrong, what I knew was the right,

You had sometimes chosen the wrong path and I had scolded a lot.

I gave you so many toys, when you make my expectation clear,

You might not have liked those toys, but accepted them with honour.

I taught you to share with all and never to become selfish,

You followed it often, continued it & never a chance to miss.

Though I taught you to respect elders, yet can’t force you to follow

I tried to give you the value of life, but may not teach you to follow.

I told you many moral stories and discuss about God,

Godliness is difficult to follow as it is like a iron rod.

Though I had carried you in my womb and taken care till now,

Yet you have to learn to surrender the EGO and exact system to bow.

There is a saying ‘Failure is the pillar of success ’. Young people do not believe in this saying. They become disappointed if success does not come easily.

Failure is the challenge to success, which we have seen in many instances. The student, who always stands first in the class and first in everything, cannot tolerate the failure. Failure teaches us more things what success cannot. For example, this year, I have seen in the newspaper that one boy appeared twelve times in SSC exam and passed. He was also working somewhere. As soon as he passed, he immediately got a promotion and his mother was very happy. After being demotivated for twelve long years, he now decided to continue his studies. Now if he was disappointed by his failure, he would not have got his promotion and remain in the same place. So success is the progressive realisation of worthy dreams, goal and objectives. If anybody sees the summit of success in the beginning and does not work for it, his dreams will be day-dreaming and he will never be successful in life.

I call success as the eye ball of fish where Arjun concentrated seeing the reflection of a fish in water and pierced the fish with his arrow. For success, one needs to concentrate on the goal and aim for it.

People become sad when they are unsuccessful drowned in planning. The realisation of one’s drawback is the pillar of success. Once a person realises his mistake and rectifies it, his path of success is ready for exploration. Negative thought brings negative vibration in the body. So success or failure depends upon the vibration of one’s thoughts.

But the main enemies of success are over enthusiasm, carelessness and sleeping nature (lazy).

If the goal is not correct according to ones nature and is over enthusiastic by working harder and harder, the goal cannot be achieved.

If the goal is aimed at destination and does not carefully guide the aim, it is difficult to arrive at the point of goal, destination and objectives and success will run away from the point of goal.

If the goal is not by action but only by day-dreaming, it will be only a dream not the real picture.

Wildly running after the goal is akin to seeing a mirage in the desert. It will be like searching for precious diamond in a heap of sand.

सेवा
दो सौ साल तो हम
पराधीन थे, अब कँहा स्वाधीन !
केवल अंग्रेज नहीं है
देश पर अभी, हम है अभी भ्रष्टाचार के अधीन |

सौ साल पहले तेत्रिस करोर्ड
आबादी थी यहाँ, आज तो है अलग
गांधीजी का अनशन तभी, गोरेकी कानो में गूंजता

साठ सालो मे, साठ करोर्ड
आबादी बन गया, और भ्रष्टाचार छा गया
अब आ गए अन्ना महान, धन्य हो गया हिन्दुस्थान
चौहत्तर साल के बूढ़े -स्वदेशी, ले लिए है प्रण
भ्रष्टाचार को ख़तम करना, इसका नहीं है भ्रम

छब्बीस साल के उम्र से, स्वामी विवेकानंद के पथ
अनुशरण करके, चला रहे है रथ
सेवा का धर्म ही सबसे ऊँचा, ईश्वर का बसेरा है यँहा |

यही मान कर अनशन करना, आसान नहीं है काम
फिर भी यह चुना आपने, आयेगा नया दिन का शाम |

My small contribution to respected Annaji

What are Values? According to dictionary meaning, values are principles or righteousness. The ideas and beliefs which give us the path to walk in life. Values are the guiding principles which give direction to life. These principles bring joy and happiness in life. Values protect us from unwanted events and gives satisfaction and peace in life. Some values can be acquired from the family, school and other environment. Family values settles the person in life.

Value education period is introduced in the school. During this period, no values are taught because teachers are busy with their portion. They always try to utilise this period for extra teaching which is in the syllabus. Actually the syllabus is framed in such a way that teachers run after the portion only. Many teachers tried to teach value-education, but pressure was from the authority or PTA (Parent-Teacher Association) to complete the syllabus first. Some teachers/schools maintain a note book of value education, but no values are inculcated properly in these children. When this value education is taught compulsorily like other academic subjects with exams and marks, thenvalue education may be invaluable.

http://www.stevepavlina.com/articles/list-of-values.htm

There are many values which this site relates to. Acceptance is a value.  But firstly, child should understand the meaning of acceptance, what to accept and what not. Suppose a child is given a packet of cocaine, should he accept it from a unknown or known person and fall into a trap? Abundance is also a value in this list, if a child is given a lot of chocolate, should he eat all together or he should taste and throw all or should he know to share those chocolate with others? Bravery is another value, to save someone from an unwanted scene is bravery but if he is not taught the value of it, he will misuse in unlawful activities. Discipline is another value, which is taught from the school. In a class, may be 50 students, got same kind of discipline, but how may will follow that value throughout their life. Punctuality is another value which is also given from childhood. How many are really following the same?

In school, teacher takes children to the garden for planting trees. That moment children learn how to take care and love the trees. After some years the same 80% of children will pluck the leaves and flowers from the tree and harm the plants. May be two children out of this group learn this value and inculcate it. Same for other values also. These are short-term system of implanting Values.

Now the question is why these values are difficult to inculcate. Spiritually the answer can be given properly. Probably 80% of people will not believe it. It is due to the Sanskar i.e. mental impressions, the traits and tendencies of a soul, caused by past experiences and behaviour patterns of the previous birth. Sanskar is the learning aspect which is subtly registered in the soul.

Basically the process of ‘Sanskar’ has three components, namely: (http://sanskaramvatika.com/why.html)

1. Purification (Doshapanayan) – To purify a person physically, vitally mentally and to eradicate/ weed out the negative mental thoughts and tendencies, which may exist in a person at the time of his birth and/or which he may have acquired from his family and surrounding environment.
2. Making up Deficiency (Heenangpoorti) – To make up the deficiency of human values which he lacks.
3. Value Enrichment (Gunaadhaan) – To inculcate qualities and transform him into an ideal, compassionate, responsible, dutiful and outstanding human who follows his duties diligently towards himself, his family, the society and the universe.

Some people at the age of 50 or 60 read the spiritual book and believe in values. Indirectly they imbibe all these values strongly. Then these Sanskars will be transferred to his next birth and then values can be easily inculcated.

The dictionary meaning of aggression is an unprovoked offensive action .e.g. a student is upset for failing and asks the teacher or principal to take the examination again, but it is not in the system says the teacher, resulting the student into aggression. When the mind cannot express its will, the outburst action is called Aggression. It is ignorance and egoism.

Irritation, frowning, resentment, indignation, rage, fury, wrath are the varieties of aggression, according to the degree or intensity.

There are many general causes of aggression—
1. Broken Home
2. Poverty
3. Racism
4. Inequality
5. Chemical imbalance in the brain
6. T.V. violence
7. Sexual repression
8. Sexual freedom
9. Overpopulation
10. Bad genes

Human desires are endless. Every human-being wants comforts & luxuries. Everyone wants perpetual health, unconditional love and continuous attention. Some people are realistic to the situation but some are violent due to frustration. They compare themselves to other and when all the requirement are not fulfilled, they become aggressive.

What are the causes ?
There are five key factors — Neurosis, Desperation, Envy, Greed and Collectivism.
Neurosis — Irritating thoughts and acts causing harm to self and others. e.g. not getting the love of his/her choice
Desperation — Worst situation and the environment push the person to do the unwanted act. e.g. slum dweller (Child) does not know who his father is and enters into criminal act.
Envy — Inequality brings the person to become envious. e.g. in the class comparison between two equal calibre or two mischievous children.
Greed — Greed is the obsessive desire for material possession. e.g. by hook or crook get the material of desire.
Collectivism — Social collective — society, the people, state, mob tendency etc. has rights, needs and moral authority.

Types of aggression:

Identification:

• Has a substance abuse problem
• Engaged in violent behaviour
• Tantrums and uncontrolled angry outburst
• Continues to exhibit antisocial behavior
• Often engaged in name-calling, cursing and abusing
• Bringing weapon to threaten or attack
• Sudden poor performance
• Few or no close friend
• Little parental supervision
• Blame others for own mistake
• Express sadistic, violent, prejudicial or intolerant attitude
• Destructive nature by damaging environment
• Not empathetic to others pain

Remedy :
Some actions minimize most of the aggression :

• Create a constructive environment where general norms are accepted by reasoning and analyzing.
• Provide rational, moral, emotional, spiritual education to adolescent and youth, explaining that aggression neither solves self and others problem.
• Greed, Intoxication, Desire, Lust and Envy are irrational as they instigate by decreasing goodness and positiveness.
• Reject the “myth of the Mob tendency” – involving the nation, state or race when inner-self identity is lost and innovative or creativeness will die.

Human is identified by Soul, which is Peaceful, Blissful and Freedom loving. Due to social, cultural and geographical environment make them violent like animals without controlling the basic instinct. Aggression leads to frustration and loneliness.

Aggression may never be eliminated entirely, but it can be reduced to very low levels by creating societies of freedom, self-awareness and compassion.

सर्व मंगल मांगल्ये, शिवे सर्वाथ साधिके,
शरैन्ये त्रियाम्बके गौरी नारायणी नमःस्तुते

Bengal is bestowed with wealth by nature. Seasons create a multicoloured mixture in our life. In Bengal, all six seasons Grishma (summer ), Barsha (Rainy season ), Shorat ( Early Autumn), Hemanto( Late Autumn ), Sheeth( Winter ) and Basanto(Spring ) can be observed minutely. Durga puja comes in the autumn.
The last day of Pitripaksha is celebrated as Mahalaya. Mahalaya is observed on the Amavasya day or New moon day of Ashwin (September/October). It is the auspicious occasion to invoke the Goddess of supreme power. All are involved to celebrate the nine days of Navratri from the next day of Mahalaya. It is the belief that these nine days the powerful goddess will protect us from all unwanted evils.

Durga puja is the biggest festival of Bengal. It is celebrated in the early autumn. It is the festival of socio-cultural events. Every Bengalee waits for this festival to arrive. There is no rich and poor feeling in the mind of people. All are busy with buying the new clothes for the festival. Children and youth take part in different cultural activities. Mature and old people are interested in dramas and they like to perform different roles.

There are some symbolic custom when wearing the following colours during Navratri. The first days Green symbolizes Growth and Harmony. The second days Grey symolises elegancy. The third days Pink symbolizes Appreciation and Gratitude. The fourth day White symbolisesPurity and Truth. The fifth day Red symbolisesLove and Passion. The sixth days Blue symbolizes Faith and Wisdom. The seventh days Yellow symbolizes Happiness and Joy. The eight days Violet symbolizes Power and Luxury. The ninth days Peacock Green symbolizes Truth and Hope. Bengalees celebrate from Panchami. There is bhog in every pandal. In the evening , there are different cultural programmes.

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The nine Navratri colors for 2010 published in local newspapers on October 6, 2010. They are:
1. Pratipada – Oct 8, 2010 (Friday) – Green
2. Dwitiya – Oct 9 (Saturday) – Grey
3. Tritiya – Oct 10 (Sunday) – Pink
4. Chaturthi – Oct 11 (Monday) – White
5. Panchami – Oct 12 (Tuesday) – Red
6. Shasti – Oct 13 (Wednesday) – Blue
7. Saptami – Oct 14 (Thursday) – Yellow
8. Ashtami – Oct 15 (Friday) – Violet
9. Navami – Oct 16 (Saturday) – Peacock Green

During Navaratri, we invoke the energy aspect of God in the form of the universal mother, commonly referred to as “Durga,” which literally means the remover of miseries of life. She is also referred to as “Devi” (goddess) or “Shakti” (energy or power). It is this energy, which helps God to proceed with the work of creation, preservation and destruction. In other words, you can say that God is motionless, absolutely changeless, and the Divine Mother Durga, does everything. Truly speaking, our worship of Shakti re-confirms the scientific theory that energy is imperishable. It cannot be created or destroyed. It is always there.
The prominence of Durga Puja increased gradually during the British Raj in Bengal. After the Hindu reformists resemble Durga with India, she had become an icon for the Indian independence movement. In the first quarter of the 20th century, the tradition of Baroyari or Community Puja was popularised due to this. After independence, Durga Puja became one of the largest celebrated festivals in the whole world.
It is believed that Idol ( Protima) is made from the clay of prostitution’s courtyard. It symbolises that prostitutes save the society from Asura or evils. This symbolizes that evil in society is saved by these women. Durga kathamo (Framework) is made with her four children —Kartik , Ganesh, Saraswati and Lakshmi representing respectively the protector, the initiator of the puja, knowledge and the provider—signifies the complete manifestation of the goddess. Durga is known as the divine spouse of the Lord Shiva.