July 9th, 2018 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

How does a man happy?  Social scientist,after a research,found that there are three major sources responsible for happiness— Genes, Events, Values.Researchers found that we inherit around 48% of our happiness.It is hard-wired in our genes which is why even demographically identical people vary in happiness.Thus,we find people who are happy despite living in difficult situations.

Events affect an amount of our happiness too. 40% of our happiness is accounted by the events but unfortunately,their effects are short-lived. The happiness we get from the things,we have dreamed about.–e.g getting a good job, getting admission in a good college etc are not lasting long.

Only 12% is our control remain with our value system. Our four basic values of faith, family,community and work has been shown to be the surest path of happiness. Happiness depend on how we think and behave,how our thought and action affect our emotional state,our work performance,our social relationships.

The world Health organization defines mental health is a state when a person realizes his/her abilities,can cope up with mental stresses of life,can work productively and fruitfully and can contribute to the community.

At the end, we can say that Happiness lies in the mind and it remains within.

Reference— Chapter by Dr. Vidya Talwalkar (Towards Mental Health And Happiness—IABH )

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How is psychology important

July 29th, 2016 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Psychology is the behavioural science. Psychology as a science helps us to understand, control and predict behaviour, performance, and mental health.  It deals with our conscious, subconscious and unconscious mind. It also refers to the application of the knowledge, which can be used to understand education, employment, and relationships. Human beings are known as social animal. They live in social situations from birth to death. Their personality is shaped by the interaction of external social environment. Human beings follow the cultural and religious actions also from the society.

To know the innate nature of the child’s qualities, instinct, urges, his /her inner talent and behaviour in the class in different way. Educational psychology helps to modify this behaviour in a positive manner. Every individual is unique in nature. His/her abilities, achievement, grasping etc. is different from each other. The knowledge of educational psychology helps parents and teachers to deal with the child and know the latent talent of a child.

Child is born with some innate behaviour. Some children are stubborn, fearful, annoyed, and anxious from childhood. If parents and teachers have the knowledge of educational psychology, they can deal with the situations. Mental health of a child is very important. The teacher by contacting their parents occasionally must discuss the development of the child. Personality develops if the mental health of a child is taken care of.

Educational psychology helps parents and teachers to understand the various aspects of learning such as Method, Process, Laws of learning etc. Thus it helps to modify the teaching procedure for making learning successful. All children are not alike. Different methods can be adopted by the teachers to solve the classroom teachings. Introduce various teaching methods to develop the interest of the child. Teacher can thus use different teaching aids to improve teaching and create curiosity in the child.

The teachers and parents must understand the importance of their responsibilities. They should not show their stress and tension in front of them. Educational psychology helps the teacher to know and understand the importance of their responsibilities with efficiency. To understand the mind of the child and guide it whenever necessary.

Parents and teachers should know the interest, aptitude and potential of the child. Without comparison they must handle them with care as these children are fragile in nature.

The curriculum which revolves round the student like concentric approach/topical approach of the subject which will be related to the child’s real-life situation. Thus, educational psychology helps to create child-centred curriculum.

Discipline cannot be forced. Educational psychology helps to understand the mind of the child and helps to maintain self-discipline.

To control the mind, one must go deep down to subconscious mind, thoughts and different impression etc. By the control of the subconscious mind one gets control over the conscious.

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My new book

March 27th, 2014 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Read my new book “You Can Know Your Psyche”



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Where Love Begins: Vibhavari [Paperback]

July 7th, 2013 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

  • Spiritual meaning of love is well depicted through the lead character of the book.

    Spiritual meaning of love is well depicted through the lead character of the book.




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Gardner’s Theory of Multiple Intelligence

September 23rd, 2012 by Jashodhara Purkayastha


Gardner’s Theory of Multiple Intelligence


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Can Life be improved?

August 8th, 2012 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Life has been given to us by God. Human being takes birth in this world with God’s permission, and willingness of oneself. Life is the combination of heredity, environment and God’s will. Many people believe that life is a combination of our Karma .i.e. cause –effect relationship. Life is also depended on our personality.

Personality is the total inborn quality, impulses, tendencies instinct and the tendencies acquired from the environment.

Watson, the father of behaviorism concluded:–“Personality is the sum total of activities that can be discovered by actual observations over a long period of time to give reliable information.”

While describing whether Life can be improved or not, the following points can be analyzed——

1. Personality is the product of Heredity and Environment.

2. It can be developed with the continuous interaction with the environment.

3. Social and cultural factors influence personality to a great extent.

4. Education and learning contribute toward development of personality.

5. According to Freud, Individual who has strong Ego are said to have a balanced personality as ego is capable of maintaining a balance between the superego and Id.

6. Adler on the other hand did not accept Freudian concept of sex urges but had given importance to self assertion. He gave more importance on Education and upbringing.

7. Karma is the integral part of Hindu Philosophy. Every action has its reaction. Every action whether physical or mental, creates a cause and subsequently bears a reaction or effect.

8. If intention is good and not harming anyone, it’s a good Karma, although it’s harsh.

9.   Take GOD‘s permission to do anything and everything that you think, and do so.

10.   Do the right thing according to the situation and without hurting anyone.

11. Do not blame the situation, it will change.

12. Pray and Thank God before eating.

!3. Whatever work one is doing should be put as God’s will, so that nothing is done wrong.

Life can be improved by the grace of God and doing every Karma consciously. If every action whether physical or mental is done with alert mind and asking permission of the Supreme, definitely one can improve the life.

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Laws of Life

August 3rd, 2012 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Swami Vivekananda is one of the favourite spiritual leaders of   my life. One day when I was teaching Swami Vivekananda in my class , it came to my mind to discuss the laws of life. Fifteen laws were given by Swami. Some of them I would like to discuss on my own way.

1. Love is the law of life: Love is very broad word.To understand Love ,it needs a very broad mind. Love should not be considered as an article. It is not a concrete thing,it is an abstract which can not be measured . There are three definition of love.The first one can be compared with the centre of the circle which is only for lust that is bodily pleasure.Second love is related to marriage,many radius in it much purer than the first one.The third love is intellectual love which touches full circumference of the circle   in which,there is no selfishness. Many people don’t understand the Love of Radha & Krishna. It comes under third category,which is very divine.

2.Attitude: Today I was reading an article on attitude.Everything we see in this world can be taken in a positive outlook.Whatever comes in our way can be taken with right spirit .”The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our attitudes.” – Charles Swindoll via Paul Biondich

3. Life is beautiful:It is said that after many birth we get human life. We should utilize it in a meaningful way. We should create some productive work to make the life beautiful.Whatever way we see the world,we experience those things in our life.There are good,  beautiful and bad things available in this world ,and we can choose the most beautiful items from that abundance. Beauty is hidden in the mind, We have to search those precious beauty.

4. Feeling within: Our mind is a big unit.What we feel in the mind comes true. When the child is small,we tell them if you eat food properly you will become strong and then he eats without putting us in any trouble.Immediately he shows us his muscles. This shows that he feels that he became stronger.

5.Free of attachment:We all believe that God resides within us. The moment we believe that God is sitting in this temple (body),we will be free of attachment.

6. You are the maker of ownself: We all believe the cause and effect theory.  Whatever action we do, there will be some effect of that action.  So never condemn anyone.

7. Helping: It is one of the values of life. If we help someone by giving money and he goes and drinks alcohol or smokes,that becomes a indirect bane for the person . So help the person in a genuine way.

8.Uphold your ideals: Our duty is to encourage every one to live up to his own highest idea, and strive at the same time to make the ideal as near as possible to the truth.

9.Listening to your own soul:Vivekananda said “All knowledge that the world has ever received comes from the mind; the infinite library of the universe is in our own mind. “None can teach anyone as knowledge is hidden within himself.

10.True to yourself: The biggest sin is to cheat oneself. Have faith in own self.

11. Nothing is impossible: There is a saying—” Paribo na ekothati bolio na aar, ek bar na parile dekho shotobaar” means Don’t say I can’t, If you can not do in one time try for hundred times— Nothing is impossible if taken the task in right spirit.

12.Power within yourself: Human mind is store power room with abundance. Open your eyes and focus yourself in one point of light.

13.Always be a learner: Every step of our life is the learning experience.We learn from our children,our students,our neighbour, our maid and even from a strangers if we are learner.Our goal is knowledge. The source of knowledge are plenty. How can we gather these knowledge depend on our learning.

14.Be truthful: Truth differ from fact to fact. But some of the fact is universal truth.We should not fall into trap by avoiding truth.

15.Think differently: Great man and successful man think differently.

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Techniques of memory

April 12th, 2012 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

I came across many people including young students who are very much forgetful, so this prompted me to write the topic. They can not remember things properly. Even I can not remember the names easily. Recently I found that my mother can’t remember the recent incidents properly but she is neither emotional nor  is she aggressive. Keeping these things in my mind, I thought of writing some memory exercises. These techniques are useful for all. Students can do the exercise regularly for better performance. 

There are many techniques to improve memory. The memory depends on age. Some old people remember the old experience well but forget the present. We tend to forget the name, password, telephone numbers etc, etc. very often and sometimes it is very difficult to memorize again.

Lets find out some of the common & simple techniques to remember the things well.

Mnemonics: It is a greek word which means “Aid to memory”. This system usually makes use of visual imagery to provide useful association and connection to memory. Some popular devices are—-

a) Pegword method: We build up a picture in our mind. We have to remember a set peg words rather than a location.

The peg words numbering 1 to 10 may be memorized by—

One is won 

Two is tow  

Three is tree  

Four is more 

Five is hive 

Six is mix 

Seven is heaven

Eight is rate 

Nine is Rhine

Ten is hen 

If these images don’t attract, then change them for something more meaningful.

b) Link and story method: Link and story is one of the easiest mnemonics. Create a memorable story and link with the present situation.

I’ll mention the remaining techniques in next write up.


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Consciousness ‘Cause & Effect’ !

March 14th, 2012 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

When I started reading the book ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ by Louise Hay, a question raised in my mind, can we really heal our life? I started experimenting myself. After five chapter, I got  mouth ulcer near my lips and it was really painful. I thought if I follow the new pattern that she has mentioned in her book, it may subside and go away. I started saying this in my mind for several times for atleast two to three days. My condition worsened more. I felt feverish. Ulcer widened, I was really unwell.

I searched internet for Home remedy, started following one or two, but in vain. I joined  yoga class for regular practice but ulcer is in the same condition. Then I realised that I have to find out my own cause of suffering. As I myself delved in spirituality from young age and followed the goodness of onself and others, I began to analyse myself. In every step of my life, I analysed and did the things and always went ahead. I always listened to my own conscious and did the work. As we live in the society, we have to sometime listen to  other people also. But I have noticed one thing that whenever I listened to others and not followed my own conscious, I did a mistake and suffered.

 So while writing the previous topic on my site — For the students — I saw the quotes of  Swami Vivekananda and started working on consciousness more. Then I realised, I may have scolded or got angry with someone, when my house was full of guests few days back. The ulcer, though its there yet, is diminishing very slowly.

 I realised,  due to our own action we suffer in life. Due to our own action, we enjoy our life physically and mentally. We all are different entity in this world. We all are born with certain natural phenomenon, certain Sanskar. Accordingly, we behave and act.

Reading books, gives us some information but our life is different, our experiences are different, our living style is different, our way of thinking differ, so is our Action-Reaction.

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Tension free Life

March 3rd, 2012 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

To the students—–

  1. Time is very precious. Time will not come back. You have to wait for the right time and opportunity.
  2. Haste is waste. Don’t hurry in life. Wait for the right opportunity.
  3. Everyone born in this world has some purpose, search and analyzes that purpose.
  4. Don’t forget your own capacity.
  5. Don’t compare yourself with other, you are an individual. Don’t kill your individuality.
  6. You are the best in your own way. You are the best, doesn’t mean that others are worst.
  7. Envy kills oneself.  Try to do the work on  your own way.
  8. Don’t try to follow anyone; you are the best in your own talent. Find out the way.
  9. Negative thought never grows, it pulls you down, and  the thought which grows upward is positive thought.Reap the  positive thought.
  10. Limit your work load.
  11.  If you are not sleeping for 7 hours, you are playing with fire, even if you have low stress.
  12. “Those who brood on the past and never live here and now, this is the cause of their suffering.” So live in the present.
  13.  If you feel that, you are a child and you are learning in every moment, from everyone, you are learning forever.
  14. Discuss each and every moment with your family and dear ones.
  15.  Smiling and Laughing is the best medicine forever.

 At the end I end it with swami Vivekanand’s words—

 Teach yourselves, teach everyone his real nature, call upon the sleeping soul and see how it awakes. Power will come, glory will come, goodness will come, purity will come, and everything that is excellent will come when this sleeping soul is roused to self-conscious activity.

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