Love to write Love stories

January 27th, 2018 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

I love to write “Love Stories”. Though I’m the second daughter of my parents,yet my father had a special corner for me. I was brought up with great affection.My mother used to give me a special place as I used to understand the things very fast. After my marriage, my father told my husband, “I have brought her up in a very soft manner. Please see to it that she never gets any pain”. My husband is continuing the same till date.

I feel that one can write a love story because of good experience of love life or a hardship in love life. Love comes from within. You neither can buy it from the market nor can arrange in the flower vase. My understanding of love may not agree with yours. Relationship grows from trust, empathy and caring. I am willing to believe that anyone can be compassionate, benevolent and warmhearted. Love life can be invaluable if anyone knows the value of Love.

As Sadguru says “ Love ,neither can you learn nor can you practice nor can you dispense it. It is just flowing”.

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God on Earth

June 23rd, 2014 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Once God thought of making a software . THAT (God) could not sleep that night and walked everywhere. Next day THAT came to the earth to see the condition of mankind. Everyone has lots of desires. Everyone wants the material comforts. They are buying all modern gadgets. Every now and then they are buying mobiles of different kind to satisfied their needs. When God went to the shopping mall, THAT observed that peoples’ hands are occupied with carry bags full of materials. God sat near the fountain and smiled in THAT’S mind. Suddenly God saw a child of two years wanted a toy of its choice. God wanted to see whether its parents give the toy to the child. God went near the shop and observed the behaviour of the child. All the time the child showed different toys. Parents were confused. At last they bought a small toy for him and walked away. God smiled at the behaviour of three and went to heaven.

Next morning, when God woke up THAT thought “Now it is the time to make the people understand what is my plan.Let the people use their intellect and work. My work has to begin now”. THAT started making a software. God collected many buttons and made a software and sent it to the world. Looking at the new software, all wanted to operate it. God had designed in such a way that nobody knew the usage of the new one. Everyone got different window. Every individual randomly started pressing those buttons. One person named Radha used her intellect and pressed number five button. Immediately full computer burst and she died.

Every individual started pressing these buttons according to the programme created by the planner according to ones Karma. Everything in the Universe has a specific cause and effect (KARMA); the magnitude of an effect is due to the cause and may be created at the time of action as Radha pressed the button. This principle acts in the,materials, mind and Spirit. There is no such thing as chance, luck or random events. We only use these terms when we cannot identify the cause. People know the effects of something after the consequences.

The Principle of Cause and Effect enables us to comrd “karma” refers to a cause and the effect – could be either positive or negative but not yet known to the people which button gives what effect. When discussed this principle, people try to understand that whatever happens in our life may be favourable or unfavourable is due to our action whether previously done or present action.

Sometimes the action could be done consciously or unconsciously and if the effect is good, people boosted its own ego. However if it is not good, then blame God or other people or bad luck. The Law of Cause and Effect is always acting in individual’s life.

God started watching from heaven that whenever desire cannot be controlled, people press the button and try to get something from Pandora’s box. Choice of pressing the button also depends on the previous action done in the past life or in the present. God is good .If the mind is the doer, we have to convince and control our intellect.Mind is drifting here and there easily. So we have to regulate our mind by controlling our intellect.

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November 10th, 2013 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Actually, no Varna system existed in the past. However, selfish people made it according to their comfort. Intellectual people in the past had different opinion about our body. Our body is divided into four Varnas. The supreme part Head is named as the Brahmin that can observe or study thoughtfully and contemplate different problems. The head can determine the process well and solve the problem. Our shoulder and hands are the Kshtriyas as these parts bear the weight of the roof and do the activities signaled by the head. Our stomach is the Vaishya who can stock the wealth keeping us healthy. The lower limbs are very important, without which people cannot move from one place to another, is named as the Sudras. We can find here that each part of the body rely one another for support. Each Varna helps one another.

There is a reason why this question came to my mind. One sage asked me, if head is Brahmin, then why are we touching Sudra, the feet and bow down? My answer was – our ego comes from our head or brain. Touching feet, means bowing down our entire feeling consciously .Self importance or Self-esteem makes us unhappy. That means when a person understands the importance of Sudras ( Lower parts), the ‘I’ ness will disappear.

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Where Love Begins: Vibhavari [Paperback]

July 7th, 2013 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

  • Spiritual meaning of love is well depicted through the lead character of the book.

    Spiritual meaning of love is well depicted through the lead character of the book.



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Laws of Life

August 3rd, 2012 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Swami Vivekananda is one of the favourite spiritual leaders of   my life. One day when I was teaching Swami Vivekananda in my class , it came to my mind to discuss the laws of life. Fifteen laws were given by Swami. Some of them I would like to discuss on my own way.

1. Love is the law of life: Love is very broad word.To understand Love ,it needs a very broad mind. Love should not be considered as an article. It is not a concrete thing,it is an abstract which can not be measured . There are three definition of love.The first one can be compared with the centre of the circle which is only for lust that is bodily pleasure.Second love is related to marriage,many radius in it much purer than the first one.The third love is intellectual love which touches full circumference of the circle   in which,there is no selfishness. Many people don’t understand the Love of Radha & Krishna. It comes under third category,which is very divine.

2.Attitude: Today I was reading an article on attitude.Everything we see in this world can be taken in a positive outlook.Whatever comes in our way can be taken with right spirit .”The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our attitudes.” – Charles Swindoll via Paul Biondich

3. Life is beautiful:It is said that after many birth we get human life. We should utilize it in a meaningful way. We should create some productive work to make the life beautiful.Whatever way we see the world,we experience those things in our life.There are good,  beautiful and bad things available in this world ,and we can choose the most beautiful items from that abundance. Beauty is hidden in the mind, We have to search those precious beauty.

4. Feeling within: Our mind is a big unit.What we feel in the mind comes true. When the child is small,we tell them if you eat food properly you will become strong and then he eats without putting us in any trouble.Immediately he shows us his muscles. This shows that he feels that he became stronger.

5.Free of attachment:We all believe that God resides within us. The moment we believe that God is sitting in this temple (body),we will be free of attachment.

6. You are the maker of ownself: We all believe the cause and effect theory.  Whatever action we do, there will be some effect of that action.  So never condemn anyone.

7. Helping: It is one of the values of life. If we help someone by giving money and he goes and drinks alcohol or smokes,that becomes a indirect bane for the person . So help the person in a genuine way.

8.Uphold your ideals: Our duty is to encourage every one to live up to his own highest idea, and strive at the same time to make the ideal as near as possible to the truth.

9.Listening to your own soul:Vivekananda said “All knowledge that the world has ever received comes from the mind; the infinite library of the universe is in our own mind. “None can teach anyone as knowledge is hidden within himself.

10.True to yourself: The biggest sin is to cheat oneself. Have faith in own self.

11. Nothing is impossible: There is a saying—” Paribo na ekothati bolio na aar, ek bar na parile dekho shotobaar” means Don’t say I can’t, If you can not do in one time try for hundred times— Nothing is impossible if taken the task in right spirit.

12.Power within yourself: Human mind is store power room with abundance. Open your eyes and focus yourself in one point of light.

13.Always be a learner: Every step of our life is the learning experience.We learn from our children,our students,our neighbour, our maid and even from a strangers if we are learner.Our goal is knowledge. The source of knowledge are plenty. How can we gather these knowledge depend on our learning.

14.Be truthful: Truth differ from fact to fact. But some of the fact is universal truth.We should not fall into trap by avoiding truth.

15.Think differently: Great man and successful man think differently.

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Characteristics of Education

April 5th, 2012 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

a)   Education is a life-long process.—Education never stops till ones grave. Everyday, from everyone, we are learning. Shri. Ramakrishna Paramhansa used to say, “As long as I live, so long do I learn.”

b)   Education brings about integrated development.—- Education is not only going to school and classroom but also the act of combining character building and living with all sect of people.

c)    Education is a tri-polar process.—– These three things are dependent on each other to complete a cycle of Education.


d)   Education is the need of today.—-Without education, nobody improves ones thought. Education teaches us to be flexible, open-minded and above all rational.

e)   Education preserves the culture & transmits from one generation to another.—-Learning from our grandparents, Learning from books, Learning from folk-lore, Learning from festivals & celebration make the culture alive and communicate from generation to generation.

f)  Education brings changes in the behaviour.—-  Going to schools, colleges and living with teachers bring the change in oneself.

g) Education is the development of mental faculties.—–Education is concentration, expansion of one’s intellect and strengthening the power of mind.

h)   Education brings out the latent talent within individual.—–Every individual has its talent inside. To bring out the originality of a person is education.

i)   Education has a specific goal of improving one’s capabilities, capacities and performances.——Goal of Education is to bring out the inner talent and capacities of a person.

j)  Education is a continuous reconstruction process.—Education is the alteration or remaking of ones own short comings.

k)   Education teaches the art of reasoning and analyzing.—-Students ,nowadays want ready made notes,power point presentation etc which give them easy information to acquire a degree. They fail to reason out of their own short comings. They have forgotten critical thinking. True education is—when one can give reasoning to any learning or thought and analyze properly.

l) Education is the nurturing process of personality.—–Personality comes from within. Though physical traits are important,yet behaviour patterns, cognition and emotion are having a great significance in ones life.Education nurtures the inner process.

m)  Education should be related to life, not bookish or irrelevant.—Educational degree is important in life but it is irrelevant if not used in appropriate time and place.

n)  Education should be job-oriented & skilled based.—-There are drop-outs from school due to a loaded curriculum. Some students have intelligence for a particular skill but it is not given importance by the school authority due to the system of education. True education —which can make the person stand on its own feet with the training of his inner skill.


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Me, The Mother

February 3rd, 2012 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

As a mother, I gave birth & showed you the light of the Earth,

You crawled, you stood, you ran and climbed the train’s Berth.

I spent many sleepless night when you had high fever,

Next day took leave from work,neglect you never.

I sat with you to teach the lesson but can’t help you to learn,

Everywhere I was there with you to help and not to get any burn.

In each and every path of life, I gave you the direction,

I gave you freedom in every step to take a proper decision.

I taught you the right and wrong, what I knew was the right,

You had sometimes chosen the wrong path and I had scolded a lot.

I gave you so many toys, when you make my expectation clear,

You might not have liked those toys, but accepted them with honour.

I taught you to share with all and never to become selfish,

You followed it often, continued it & never a chance to miss.

Though I taught you to respect elders, yet can’t force you to follow

I tried to give you the value of life, but may not teach you to follow.

I told you many moral stories and discuss about God,

Godliness is difficult to follow as it is like a iron rod.

Though I had carried you in my womb and taken care till now,

Yet you have to learn to surrender the EGO and exact system to bow.

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Buddhist Perspectives of Personality

January 22nd, 2011 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

At the time of Buddha’s birth, spiritual culture of India was at low ebb. Buddha was born in 560 B.C. at Kabilavastu. He left his palace in search of three woes of men—weariness, disease and death. Whenever people used to ask him about these three woes, he used to insist that one should experience the truth for oneself as it was the belief of sages.
Buddhism maintains that every person possesses the Buddha nature. Buddha means – one who has achieved a state of perfect enlightenment and full humanness. The four Truths which Buddha taught are: 1) there is suffering, 2) there is cause of suffering, 3) suffering can be overcome, 4) way to overcome the suffering. These suffering can be erased by knowing the path of happiness. These can be attained by the noble way of freedom, Nirvana, wherein there is no more birth, no suffering, no old age and no death. This Nirvana should be emphasised, may be achieved in this present life. Be earnest in efforts and shall be free from great evils.
The Nirvana of Buddha is not a state of wiping out but the attainment of the unchangeable reality, which can be positively described as the eternal peace. But what this peace really is, no words can define; all definition can be only symbol and can be only a vague suggestion. Buddha employs terms for its description such as misery and death, freedom from sensuality, from the ego, from delusion (a mistaken or unfounded opinion or idea), and from ignorance. This state of freedom is attainable by the noble kind of wisdom. The wisdom is not the wisdom of intellect, but a state of ‘Sunyata’ in which no subject-object relation exists, and in which one transcends both intellect and mind representing the truth.
This Nirvana can be accomplished by following the Eight-fold Path—i.e. The Noble Eightfold Path describes the way to the end of suffering…..

Eightfold Path

i) Right view–Right view is the cognitive aspect of wisdom. It means to see things through, to grasp non-lasting and imperfect nature of worldly objects and ideas, and to understand the law of karma and karmic conditioning. Right view is not necessarily an intellectual capacity, just as wisdom is not just a matter of intelligence.
ii) Right intention—It is the kind of energy that controls our actions and included in cognition of wisdom. Buddha distinguishes three types of right intentions: 1. the intention of renunciation, which means resistance to the pull of desire, 2. the intention of good will, meaning resistance to feelings of anger and aversion, and 3. the intention of harmlessness, meaning not to think or act cruelly, violently, or aggressively, and to develop compassion.
iii) Right Speech-–It is included in ethical conduct to moral discipline. This aspect is not self-sufficient, however, essential, because mental purification can only be achieved through the cultivation of ethical conduct. Buddha explains not to speak deliberate lies and not to speak deceitfully. Speech should not hurt others. Speak friendly, warm and gently.
iv) Right Action—The second ethical principle, right action, involves the body as natural means of expression, as it refers to deeds that involve bodily actions. Right action means not to harm, no cheating, no fraud, to abstain from sexual misconduct. Right action means to act kindly and compassionately, to be honest, to respect the belongings of others, and to keep sexual relationships harmless to others.
v) Right Livelihood—Right livelihood means that one should earn one’s living in a righteous way and that wealth should be gained legally and peacefully. Buddha explains to avoid alcohol and intoxicants products and not to slaughter the innocent animals.
vi) Right Effort—-Mental energy is the force behind right effort; it can occur in either wholesome or unwholesome states. If there is no right effort, it can produces desire, envy, aggression, and violence Right efforts makes the person self-disciplined, honest, benevolent, and kind.
vii) Right Mindfulness-— It is controlled by cognition . It is the mental ability to control the repulsive nature . The cognitive process begins with an impression induced by perception, or by a thought.
viii) Right concentration—The last path of Buddhist philosophy is the development of a mental force that occurs in natural consciousness. Right concentration comes through meditation according to Buddhist philosophy.
The first two paths are for wisdom. The 3rd and 4th paths are for ethical conduct and the last three paths are for mental development.
Personality development in Buddhism is the improvement of internal and external characteristics. The improvement of internal characteristics is emphasised in Buddhism as it leads to the enlightenment of the ultimate goal of Buddhism. Nirvana is the state of mind in which all cravings and desires have been extinguished. Nirvana can only be achieved through self-discipline, meditation, and realisation of impermanence of selflessness.

In Buddhism, a human being is made up of five components: i) skanda-rupa i.e. material form, ii) samjna means cognition, iii) Vedana means sensation, iv) Samkhras means disposition or a habitual inclination; a tendency, v) Vijanana means consciousness. From Ignorance springs the samkhras, from the samkharas springs consciousness, from consciousness springs name and Form, from name and form springs six senses, from six senses springs contact, from contact comes out sensation, from sensation springs out thirst or desire and from desire attachment, from attachment, the existence, from existence springs birth and from birth old age and then death—. These all elements constitute personality of a person.
Personality in Buddhism means characteristics that are specific to an individual. These are displayed by individual’s good or bad behaviours through body, mind and speech. Personality is divided into two ways i.e. implicit personality and explicit personality. Implicit personality means inherent in the nature of a person. Explicit personality is through Body and Speech. Development of Implicit personality is by improving through Eight-fold path the explicit personality.

Dharma Wheel

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Realising Meditation

August 29th, 2010 by Jashodhara Purkayastha

Every time I read newspaper
As I’m a good reader
From first page to last
I go through very fast.

Many information, many articles
Many a time read miracles
Many a time terrorist attack
Then many times the road stuck.

My favourite is the speaking tree
Bring about the thought as free
Every day it gives some mind food
May be the purpose to feel good.

Time to time, I hear Meditation
Tells to focus steadily on respiration
Unreal thought activates the mind
The hard reality goads self to find

Buddha advised, be aware of situation,
In all ways processes of life’s action
Sensible and alert in every moment
To recognize the God‘s Movement.

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Spiritual-Social-Scientific Life

July 15th, 2010 by swapan

This life is based alternately as Unknown-Worldly-Reasonable. Let’s share views where debate abounds from time immemorable, without giving away to Abuse & Violence.

An example, (myself visiting USA): ‘I meet an Indian at a market and ask him, “Are you from India?” Replies, “No, from Pakistan, but my wife is from India”. Oh! I say, “I am from Mumbai”. He replies “How nice, she is also from Mumbai”. I ask, “Where in Mumbai?” He says, “She stays in MALAD and I have visited them many times”. I say, “Well we could meet and talk a lot as I am also from MALAD!” This incidence shows, we get closer and interact amicably when we have similarity between us. “Birds of the Same feather flock together” is well known. Thus discussion can be a nice Social set up when we talk of Spirituality and Science.

Social condition bridges the Spiritual and Scientific understanding. We can now define each. Religion is a social setup where spiritual philosophy is a part and we try to prove some of the situations scientifically based in a particular Culture. So religion (worldly) developed politically during a certain Period at a certain Place due to an important Person. Most of the ancient preaching by realised persons had no written text. Those illustrious poetic words were memorised in a set tune. This could be interpreted variously, so leaders misrepresented to suit their own selfish ends. Many great philosophical thinkers did not get political support and so did not develop into a cult. Those which developed into Religion were due to the kings’ clout and sometimes spread by force. Most of the intelligentsia who could not experiment in their own country, travelled where peace existed. So history tells that India was a place where philosophy developed through research in ‘Gurukul’ (residential schools) run by Saints. Here bountiful nature and hospitable people helped these intellectuals to think further and experiment without worrying for the physical condition. So Yoga and six philosophical ideas came into existence. Here, body was a part of Science to be experimented till death was defied. Thus an understanding of Life-n-After (Spiritual) was defined till existence of Soul and its constituents were made known to all. Then body and its control by the senses were to be regulated. Here the leader (guru) who guides the students had to control Ego and Desire, or else the system could be overruled by lineage and will be taken over by the pampered son. This has been the case in our society. The unknown (sprit) had to be connected with existence and its laws of Life. The ‘Cause and Effect’ theory and law of Karma (deed) was created into philosophical rules as ‘Upanishad’. Life and living was studied and public counselled to change accordingly. The story of ‘Valmiki’ was known as a great saint, after he was transformed from a looting and murderous outlaw (dacoit).

The social arrangement which connected our Body with the surrounding had to be ruled by an Intellectual mind. These humans had to be studied and defined. ‘Vedanta’ as the sixth ancient philosophy analyses in details stating, “We live by Choice and not by Chance”. Humans are looked upon as five types, based upon the relation with the surroundings:

1) Stone-man is one who lives depending on others and is totally self-centred.
2) Tree-man grows by sharing with closely attached who help themselves.
3) Animal-man is ruthlessly attached to same species (family) only.
4) Human are emotionally bound, reasonably defends rights with laws, not instincts.
5) God-man remains detached, desiring little for survival by serving others.
Humans are animals but Intelligent-animal, Social-animal and Rational-animal. Lastly God-man is elevated kind of selfless personality, always desiring realisation by trying to know the unknown logically through this body. We have to strive for this in Spirituality.

Also another form of analysing takes place by differentiating ‘Self’ and ‘World’. At every moment there is interaction between these two, where ‘My’ denotes World and ‘Me’ denotes Self when we ask “Is it my …….?” Answer ‘yes’ will denote world. If not then it is me = self. We find that even our Name belongs to the world. The world is developed by Scientists, Economists, Politician, teachers of today who go to build desire and motivate for worldly gains. But Self is developed my Saints (God-man). We have noticed that most of the projects have short life. The world is continuously changing and selfish short goal desires serve only the economic conditions. But, if the Self is developed before the World, then the projects can be lasting. The self and selfless serving acts are nearer to the Truth, which is everlasting. The everlasting things in the spirit system are the Soul and GOD.

We have related the Social and Scientific terms and seen how spirit is connected to the social set up. Now, how does the logic in Society relate to Science considering the Spirituality? The unknown is always seen as the image of the known. The self is considered as the shadow of the world. So the attributes of GOD is taken as the equivalent to modern definition of Energy. GOD is the Omnipotent, Omniscient and Omnipresent growing positive Energy, which can reduce due to our deeds (Karma) into the crashing negative energy (the devil).

Yes, if the Self is not properly trained by the society, then the world will slowly and steadily increase into negative energy (Global warming). Short sighted desires will finish this beautiful world as we have lost quite a lot of things which we see now in the Museums.



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