Some guidelines for better life—-
1) Your deed is your Destiny.
2) Building character in student life is long lasting.
3) Dreaming is good, but real dream, not the day dreaming. Don’t make castle in the air.
4) Follow the right norms of the society.
5) Don’t destroy the culture of the place.
6) Planting tree per number of persons to save the environment.
7) Conservation of energy and water is essential.
Education must be knowledgeable, not informative. Information converts into knowledge when action is taken after analyzing by asking an experienced person.
9) Spirituality makes the person strong in mind. ” I’m powerful soul”.
10) Healthy society,character, culture, education ,environment and spirituality make the nation strong and enthusiastic.

This life is based alternately as Unknown-Worldly-Reasonable. Let’s share views where debate abounds from time immemorable, without giving away to Abuse & Violence.

An example, (myself visiting USA): ‘I meet an Indian at a market and ask him, “Are you from India?” Replies, “No, from Pakistan, but my wife is from India”. Oh! I say, “I am from Mumbai”. He replies “How nice, she is also from Mumbai”. I ask, “Where in Mumbai?” He says, “She stays in MALAD and I have visited them many times”. I say, “Well we could meet and talk a lot as I am also from MALAD!” This incidence shows, we get closer and interact amicably when we have similarity between us. “Birds of the Same feather flock together” is well known. Thus discussion can be a nice Social set up when we talk of Spirituality and Science.

Social condition bridges the Spiritual and Scientific understanding. We can now define each. Religion is a social setup where spiritual philosophy is a part and we try to prove some of the situations scientifically based in a particular Culture. So religion (worldly) developed politically during a certain Period at a certain Place due to an important Person. Most of the ancient preaching by realised persons had no written text. Those illustrious poetic words were memorised in a set tune. This could be interpreted variously, so leaders misrepresented to suit their own selfish ends. Many great philosophical thinkers did not get political support and so did not develop into a cult. Those which developed into Religion were due to the kings’ clout and sometimes spread by force. Most of the intelligentsia who could not experiment in their own country, travelled where peace existed. So history tells that India was a place where philosophy developed through research in ‘Gurukul’ (residential schools) run by Saints. Here bountiful nature and hospitable people helped these intellectuals to think further and experiment without worrying for the physical condition. So Yoga and six philosophical ideas came into existence. Here, body was a part of Science to be experimented till death was defied. Thus an understanding of Life-n-After (Spiritual) was defined till existence of Soul and its constituents were made known to all. Then body and its control by the senses were to be regulated. Here the leader (guru) who guides the students had to control Ego and Desire, or else the system could be overruled by lineage and will be taken over by the pampered son. This has been the case in our society. The unknown (sprit) had to be connected with existence and its laws of Life. The ‘Cause and Effect’ theory and law of Karma (deed) was created into philosophical rules as ‘Upanishad’. Life and living was studied and public counselled to change accordingly. The story of ‘Valmiki’ was known as a great saint, after he was transformed from a looting and murderous outlaw (dacoit).

The social arrangement which connected our Body with the surrounding had to be ruled by an Intellectual mind. These humans had to be studied and defined. ‘Vedanta’ as the sixth ancient philosophy analyses in details stating, “We live by Choice and not by Chance”. Humans are looked upon as five types, based upon the relation with the surroundings:

1) Stone-man is one who lives depending on others and is totally self-centred.
2) Tree-man grows by sharing with closely attached who help themselves.
3) Animal-man is ruthlessly attached to same species (family) only.
4) Human are emotionally bound, reasonably defends rights with laws, not instincts.
5) God-man remains detached, desiring little for survival by serving others.
Humans are animals but Intelligent-animal, Social-animal and Rational-animal. Lastly God-man is elevated kind of selfless personality, always desiring realisation by trying to know the unknown logically through this body. We have to strive for this in Spirituality.

Also another form of analysing takes place by differentiating ‘Self’ and ‘World’. At every moment there is interaction between these two, where ‘My’ denotes World and ‘Me’ denotes Self when we ask “Is it my …….?” Answer ‘yes’ will denote world. If not then it is me = self. We find that even our Name belongs to the world. The world is developed by Scientists, Economists, Politician, teachers of today who go to build desire and motivate for worldly gains. But Self is developed my Saints (God-man). We have noticed that most of the projects have short life. The world is continuously changing and selfish short goal desires serve only the economic conditions. But, if the Self is developed before the World, then the projects can be lasting. The self and selfless serving acts are nearer to the Truth, which is everlasting. The everlasting things in the spirit system are the Soul and GOD.

We have related the Social and Scientific terms and seen how spirit is connected to the social set up. Now, how does the logic in Society relate to Science considering the Spirituality? The unknown is always seen as the image of the known. The self is considered as the shadow of the world. So the attributes of GOD is taken as the equivalent to modern definition of Energy. GOD is the Omnipotent, Omniscient and Omnipresent growing positive Energy, which can reduce due to our deeds (Karma) into the crashing negative energy (the devil).

Yes, if the Self is not properly trained by the society, then the world will slowly and steadily increase into negative energy (Global warming). Short sighted desires will finish this beautiful world as we have lost quite a lot of things which we see now in the Museums.

Spiritual<————-Social————->Scientific

BRIDGE

Modern outlook has a Scientific bent of mind. Also with me, trying to see science in all our deeds. We are all Unique physically, as our finger-prints are exceptionally different. So must be our thinking.

Our Mind and Body are inter-related and inter-dependent. When we are stressed Mentally, our wish is to rest physically.  Similar is the act, when we have Body ache.  Looking at science, we know it proves physically or chemically. This requires our senses to guide us. Anything outside its purview falls under ‘Logic’, which is Developing science.

This mind when at rest gains energy. We call this ‘Dhyaan’ or Meditation. During this condition, our inner energy gets connected with the vast energy outside. The greater outer energy starts flowing into us. The process is called ‘Yog’ or joining two things. The door to the mind is through bodily activity and conditioning. The path is via our senses. So we use many Items (Yantra) in our Process (Tantra) to pacify our mind along with Words or Prayers (Mantra). The items awake and direct our senses towards a particular Goal. Thus Prayer is one form which helps in Yog. We are involved emotionally bounds by words which motivate us. This is ‘Bhakti Yog’, where our Heart is totally impassioned into this action. As we are connected with the Society, our emotions (Bhaavnaa) are related to the bountiful beauty which conveys creation of GOD. Here our relations with Living and non-living objects play a great role in the prayer. So our Senses and Relations are part-n-parcel of our prayers. We now imagine beautiful GOD as related to us and always connected. Prayer is then a form of interaction with GOD.

A story as case-in-point:  A priest visited one village and discoursed on the greatness of Jesus Christ. After the talk, he had his food and went around the village before retiring for the night. In one of the hut, he pried upon a voice talking to someone – a child must be. On peeping through a window, he saw a person lovingly speaking to little ‘Krishna’ and put the idol to sleep. Next day, he left in the morning by boat. As he was almost in the middle of the river, he saw someone calling out and running towards the boat. When the person came near, he realized that it was the same person he had seen in the hut. Now the person asked him, “What was the name of the GOD you had mentioned last night?” The priest replied, “Please forget it, as you are well-off with ‘Krishna’”. The priest could not comprehend for the moment ‘that this person near the boat was floating upright on the water’!  Jesus had done so as per the Bible.

We know of many Saints, who have led groups into prayers and helped all with Miracles. The psychological power is achieved through ‘Bhakti Yog’. Our breath and senses help in attaining this condition. When our body stills into calm and composed posture, we then reach a point where energy increases in us. In our prayer, the breathing technique of ‘Hathayog’ is combined with words. All the senses are combined together to get maximum inlet into the mind. So along with words we use an image (to eye), incense (to nose), lamp, flower, water, items which we could offer to a guest or teacher, rituals with pleasant music and even dance. The place could be a temple for a gathering. This could be compared with studies in a class where attentiveness is the utmost in the mind of all present in the congregation. The prayer could be a single sound of ‘AUM’ or repetition of words called ‘Bij Mantra’ as name (Jap) of GOD which appeals to the mind. The prayer can be extended to have a meaning which describes, praises and thanks the Lord by playing upon the emotion of a person. The prayer can be put to tune and sung which is memorized easily. This song can increase into a tempo and frenzy called “Utsav”(celebration) until converted to a trance. There can be action along with the words where things are added into the place of worship that helps in concentration. The process or method of prayer should not be forced on others. Similar to food, when forced on others, can harm one if it is not to ones liking. Forced food does not suit the body, so also forced prayer does not help in the Meditation. Body likes variety of food, so also Mind is attentive with different form of prayers.

All these methods instill a system which helps the person to get engrossed into the process and a constant methodical breathing takes place. If added action of Fasting is done, then all bodily activity is pointed towards the prayer without any other symptomatic problems. The fasting helps in continuous breathing where the time of gulping or intake of food does not stop the breath. The concentration can be farsighted thought in heaven, near at hand around us or within us into our Self. This is from outer (Baahirgat) to inner (Antargat) self. How intense has to be the Emotion in prayer – case in point: Two saints from ‘Bhakti Yog’. One was Guru (teacher) Ramakrishna Paramhamsa, who was a worshiper of Kali. The idol is very famous at Dakshineshwar, Kolkata. This saint relished Fish as his part of food. He had a great disciple named ‘Vivekananda’, who detested Image worship. Saint Vivekananda built a temple at Belurmath, Kolkata inculcating architecture from all over the world. The temple has only the image of Guru Ramakrishna Paramhamsa, revered emotionally as next to GOD. This emotion has to be so intense that Vivekananda could absolve himself of Fever once when Ramakrishna insisted on the method of praying. The first emotion of a human as a baby is Crying. If our prayers can draw this emotion out from within our self, we can go into that trance and point of Meditative state.

This process of Prayer termed as ‘Bhakti Yog’ increases the inner energy of a person connected with the Society and deviates his mind from other vices at that moment involving one into a Good Karma. This is my personal view, based on practical experience and reading.

Emotional-mind when at rest gains energy by 'Bhakti Yog' as our inner energy gets connected with the vast energy outside

The month of ‘Shraavan’ (monsoon) is filled with Religious fervour. GOD is remembered as ‘Ganesh Utsav’ by Hindu, as ‘Pradushan’ by Jain, as ‘Ramzan’, by Muslim ….
This season plays upon the Mind of people and we try to keep ourselves Happy. The Body now has to act positively and indirectly keep the Mind blissful conforming to nature. The season activates the growth in the Nature by flowering of plants and sex in animals.
Our Body & Mind are inter-related. We wish to rest, when our body is painful and mind is stressful. The mind is more powerful than the body, as our Body does not act if Mind does not command. Body is limited, as we can hit as far as we can see and aim. But the Mind does it wherever and whenever required. The Body is also limited to one birth, but mind can make it immortal.
Food for the Body is what we eat, but the Mind’s food is Meditation. This food can be eaten raw from the tree or after cooking and then in a plate. The process depends upon the persons taste, condition (outer) and suitability (inner). How and what we eat is expressed through our Mind. Meditation (worship) can also be without or with a Form (Idol, Process). We cook and eat along with our relations in a society or in a forest (ashram) along with friends or alone.
The Mind is studied indirectly by psychologists through behaviour (action) of Body. This powerful part of Human was studied by the help of ‘EEG’ machine. To prove something as Scientific, we need physical experiments. Our senses perceive to prove and fulfill as Logic & Statistics are lesser part of science. Science is based on data collected and reasoned out (analyzed). Also result has to be repetitive. So logic is Developing science, still to be thorough.
Then ‘How does Yogic feat defy science!’ Certain results were recorded during a test on Yogi under condition by an EEG machine. The data analyzed in a graphic scale of 0 to 22 ranges gave some understanding of the behaviour. In the range of 0 to 4 it is deep sleep to dreamy state. From 4 to 7 the person is calm and steady but awake. This is Meditative state. From 7 to 22, the condition grows to turbulent, agitated and disordered state. Here one is expending energy in this state. So the gaining of energy is in the Meditative state. By practice one can connect own Inner energy with the vast Outer energy. This particular point between 4 and 7 called ‘Dhyaan’ and ‘Samadhi’ is when ‘Yog’ (joining) takes place. This is when the heart beat reduces below 72 per minute and energy gets stored in us.
The Body encases a part of Mind called Soul/Spirit. The encapsulated Energy called soul carries impressions (Sanskaar) as result of deeds (Karma) done by the Body & Mind. The Soul increases to a state of higher Level till infinity. The basic constituents of soul are Freedom, Peace and Bliss, as our self always tends towards this goal. A part of soul, which carries the impressions of deeds reflect in our attitude as result/reason for being in a particular state. This is based on ‘Cause & Effect’ system. The experience being the best teacher, establishes an Attitude through character building in steps. Adversity/Problems keep changing our aptitude by Revealing->outburst of Emotion->Hardening->Egotistic->lost Self->Softens & Wisdom over-rules->Experiment with truth->Results & Reason->changes Attitude->new Character. This could take several births as the Soul keeps changing dress (Body) by law of system (GOD).
Our Intellect which is part of Mind controls the bodily Senses. This is realised during Meditative state. The achievement comes through THREE Main stages of ‘Yog’… ‘Karma’, ‘Bhakti’ and ‘Gyaan’. ‘Karma Yog’ (action/Hand) contains daily chores where mind agrees that it is not the Doer (service being the motive). This includes Hatayog, Tratak, Tantric rituals (process) with Humbleness. The Tamasic/workaholic Guna (attitude) is more prominent. The process leads to ‘Bhakti Yog’(emotion/Heart), when connected to family/society. Here stress is on GOD’s name with ‘Mantra’ (chant), ‘Tantra’ (process) and ‘Yantra’ (instrument of ritual) help in concentration as good/right Karma. The ‘Rajasic Guna’ is foremost here seeking to lead (even as donations). Then ‘Gyaan Yog’ (intellect/Head) creeps in with reasons and text analytically. Here analysis of every action turns into Philosophy of Life (Upanishads). The ‘Saatvic Guna’ is outstanding here. Guru (teacher) is playing important role in this (although helps in all types Yog). The Serving attitude is seen more in ‘Karma Yog’. The humbleness is reduced if designated a leader. Superstitious nature is seen in ‘Bhakti Yog’. Ego increases in ‘Gyaan Yog’. Ego being the reason for our rebirth plays a truant part and so humbleness can vanish into Desire. The simultaneous practice of these Yog makes a complete human, termed as ‘Raja Yog’. The ‘Saatvic’ conditions set in to impose upon the attitude.
Finally ‘Raj Yog’ can bring into a certain point in the Meditative state. Thus these processes of Yog together lead us towards ‘Uparati’ (detachment). More practice creates ‘Dhaarnaa’ (steadily desireless) when we lose emotional interest in our beloved relations. This help in attaining ‘Dhyaan’ state, when we are engrossed in Meditation remaining aloof from the wants of the society. The desires are cremated (burnt) and we are transformed (reborn) into a new life. The state of ‘Dhyaana’ can be as a sudden calmness after climaxing into a tempo as crescendos called ‘Uthsav’. The last state of ‘Samaadhi’ touches us and we are not aware of our Body.
The Mind now is so powerful that the soul can be transferred to a different plane. This Mind can also rule the Body to make it immortal. The supernatural Human is now called ‘God-man’ superior to other state (from stone-man, plant-man, animal-man and human) considering the relation with others in the society. God-man state is many a time misconstrued as non-loving person by layman. Now path leads towards salvation……
The self-realisation takes place, but stages of ‘Siddhi’ (attainment- http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Siddhi) come as obstacle to create desire and ego in us. Unless these stages are surpassed, we cannot attain ‘Trinetra’ attitude perpetually, which is also a Siddhi. The state makes us see the Past and Future. Transferring soul and Rebirth at-our-wish is finally achieved named ‘Moksha’.

God is Truth. God is present everywhere. God is all pervading power who governs this universe and keeps in perfect order. God (THAT) sends every human-being in this world for some purpose. God does not have a body to perform all work, so THAT does everything through different bodies.
When a child is born in a family, parent forget everything about God and start taking care of it as their own. They take care of it and try to give all the comforts according to their capacity. When the child becomes of school going age, parents start dreaming for it. They think of its well being. They unconsciously put the seed of their choice and they want their inner wishes to be fulfilled. They plan their child to become a doctor, engineer. Officer, big businessman etc and shine it like a star. They give all the facility to their child and feel happy. They absolutely forget THAT’S plan.
When the child reaches its school final, parents hope get shattered, when it could not perform according to their wishes. Few days, they are disappointed and hope to get better in future. They start dreaming again for the next opportunity. Those processes go on and on. At last the child become an adult and gets everything according to its capacity and luck. Still, parents never lose their hopes and wait for the future.
This way life continues and hope grows. One day when parents die, the child’s life is fulfilled with what parents wanted. The child feels unhappy that its parents could not see its progress.
Hope is the life and it gives light to life. Hope keeps the person alive for a longer time. Human –being forgets THAT’s WILL and hopes for fulfilling its wishes.
Never to forget as Without God’s wishes no leaves stir, no birds fly, no sun shines, no cloud forms, no life appears, no death occurs. Then why an ignorant human-being does not understand the repercussion of HOPE and make him an unhappy being. God realisation can bring the person closer to Reality i.e. presence of God.

Song of Hope:

It is said that God is omnipresent, omniscient and omnipotent. Sometimes we don’t understand and feel it. We as human-being feel proud of ourselves and think that we are the doer. Whatever work we do we think we are doing and not God.
Many of us feel that only weak person believe in God and they depend on God. These people think that God is blind, deaf and dumb.
We planned to go to Vaishnodevi shrine in the month of March as it is pleasant at that time. We nine members including my mother booked the ticket in Swaraj Express. My mother is 83 years old. All the members were disappointed when they heard that I‘ve booked the ticket for my mother. Even I was little hesitant to take her there. All my brothers and sisters were also against her trip as she had not travelled in train for many years. By train, it takes 30 hours to reach Jammu from Mumbai and from Jammu to Katra by bus. Everyone was worried, how she will go to toilet in train, how she will board on bus.
The day of the trip, we boarded the train and next day we reached Katra by bus. After reaching Katra, we went to hotel for dinner. We bathed and started for Vaishnodevi temple. We booked a Palki (Palanquin) for my mother and all of us sat on horses. It took 4 hours to reach by horse and 6 hours by palki. We all reached there early and waited for my mother. When she got down from the palki, we thought how she can walk 3Km more. When she just got down from Palanquin, her full body was shivering and her knees were shaking. “I think, I Can’t walk “she said. I got very nervous by looking at her condition. I thought, if anything happens here, what will I answer to everyone? After half an hour rest, I made her walk slowly. After walking for 15 minutes, it was impossible for her to walk further. So we made her to sit in a broad place and we walked towards the shrine. After an hour, when we came back, we made her sit in palki again and we reached down at 9.30 am in the morning next day. When palki came down, she was looking fresh and happy. That evening, we came to Jammu and stayed in hotel.
After reaching Mumbai, she just fell on the bed and did not utter a word. We really was worried and thought of calling a doctor. But she be-spoke, not to call a doctor. Full night she was groaning in pain.
Next day, when she woke up in the morning, she called me with a smiling face and said, “Yes Mata Vaishnodevi is still alive. I asked Mata to keep me alive till the shrine and when I was sitting there, one lady came and asked me to see the shrine and do the pranam as I wanted from my heart. I saw the temple and took Mata’s blessing.” My mother continued, ‘before reaching , I was praying to Mata that I should not trouble anyone — after returning back keep me on bed for three days and after three days I must be alright. She became alright after 3 days.
But I still can’t believe that she had seen the shrine. I learnt one thing from my mother that if you want something wholeheartedly it may be fulfilled.

Vaishno Devi, Jammu, India

Life ends when Hope diminishes,

Hope ends when faith decreases,
Faith ends when cheating begins,
Love ends when freedom loses,
Freedom ends when strength applies,
Strength ends when morality effects,
Morality ends when principle dies,
Principle ends when mind effects,
Mind ends when death proceeds,

Death ends when Life begins….

Abuse

As I’m working as a counsellor for many years, I thought of writing about ABUSE. It came to my mind that I’ve to find out the real meaning of Abuse.

A ——Aggressive

B——Behaviour

U—–Useless

S—–Society

E—-Education

Abuse means:  Aggressive Behaviour is Useless for Society & Education.  It affects society and education indirectly. If someone is verbally abusing another, the children around them learn and get affected indirectly. If teacher is scolding some students, the children around them are effected mentally. Abuse means mistreat or treat badly, according to dictionary. It is a harm or maltreatment inflicted on a person through physical, verbal, emotional and sexual means. It is a rude and inhuman expression intended to offend or hurt e.g. when students commit any mistake they are abused verbally or emotionally.

I) Verbal abuse— Verbal abuse can be

a)-Any type of negative name calling e.g. Idiot, Stupid etc.

b) Any words of shame— Critical, sarcastic, mocking words.e.g if the child is fat and calling him Motu .

c) Yelling, swearing and screaming—if a teacher or parents scream at the child he feel ashamed d) verbally ballistic—e.g. bombastic words

e) Using threat e.g. if the child does not do his homework, locked in dark room or bathroom.

f) Blaming the victim—if bench falls down suddenly while playing and someone gets hurt (the person who planned the game)

g) Manipulating the action—if the teacher tells more negative about the child in front of the principal.

Identification of verbal abused

i)                    Shows sudden change in behaviour

ii)                  Some learning problem

iii)                Avoid the situation

iv)                Does not want to go school

II) Physical Abuse– Physical abuse are of many types

a) physical bruises &cuts — If teacher hits the child with ruler.

b) Cigarette burns-– Generally it happens at home.

c) Watching sleeping habit—Child can’t sleep due to physical pain.

d) Self destructive nature—Try to harm him and others.

Identification of physical Abuse

i)                    Avoid school

ii)                  Difficulties in walking &sitting

iii)                Weight loss—Not getting proper food

iv)                Distrust, Excessive efforts to please, shyness, fighting

v)                  Changing sleeping habit.

III) Psychological Abuse —-Mental harassment brings more traumas to the person. a) Emotional trouble— some people like to trouble the person emotionally, here the accused is troubled emotionally, so that other person does not make it out.

b) Name calling – negative name calling e.gthe child is criticised by sarcastic term or family behaviour.

Identification of psychological Abuse

i)                    Crying without any reason

ii)                  Not mixing with anyone

iii)                Not attending any celebration or function

iv)                Not participate in other activities.

IV) Sexual Abuse— Sexual contact between an adult and younger than eighteen years.

a) Feeling guilty— Sexually embarrassment in front of everyone can’t be tolerated.

b) There are many sexually abused children or women can’t disclose the fact to anyone.

Identification of sexually Abused

i)                    Try to avoid school

ii)                  All the time weeping

iii)                Not talking to anyone

iv)                Getting frightened of male

V) Social Abuse— Caste system, Infanticides, Comparison etc. If a person is from lower caste, told not to mix with the person. Girl child is killed in the womb or after birth.  Two co-sisters are compared.

Identification of Social Abuse

i)                    Low caste or high caste by the teacher in the class — Sitting arrangement of upper caste and lower caste.

ii)                  Mothers are comparing boys and girls at home and give inferior quality product to girl child.

iii)                Poor health.

iv)                Not mixing with anyone.

V) Hate Crime —-

1) Expression changes when teacher enters in the class.

2) Avoid class.

3) Request principal to change the division of the class.

We are born… and then one day we die. Isn’t that what we call life?? In this life we make choices and everything we do, consciously or unconsciously is a choice. The feeling of being the “do-er” of actions has been referred to as “ahem” or “ego”, and understanding the choices of action is what I refer to as “consciousness”. The more conscious we are, the more “awake” and with the awakening comes “singularity”, elsewhere referred to “bliss”, “peace” or “happiness”. The last few nouns are not antonyms of “misery”, “war” or “sadness” respectively, but just non-existence of all those opposites.

All through life, we have been accustomed to this sense of opposites through our senses. Thus language, thoughts, actions are all measured through opposites. If you are not happy, you are considered sad. If not successful considered failure. If not content means you are discontent. Actions, thoughts and life itself is not just “the way it is”, it is always “either-or” of these opposites. This write-up is to explain that it is we who choose life’s opposites and look at life through this lens of duality. I try to put reality in a perspective where we make choices between dualities and hence choose what we should-be or want to be in life.

When I first heard the phrase “You Live by Choice, Not by Chance”, it sounded in all glory that I was the “do-er” and I decide what happens in my life. I felt that if I choose to do “X”, I know I can get “Y”. So, I can predict all the consequences of all the actions which I chose to perform. Most people who believe they are the “do-er” believe so.  But what that cannot answer is why are there so many situations in life where we don’t know why something happened? Why do we become dejected that something that I expected to happen did not happen?? And that’s when we call ourselves a failure, because we only see duality.

We have something called intellect through which we make choices. Choices to not just do things, but more importantly to chose the consequences. Choice to look at the consequence through duality of success and failure or just look at it as an event. This choice in essence determines our actions, emotions and define our “being”. These choices design the path of our life, not through actions themselves, but how we choose to look at the consequence. Below is an interesting take of choices in life through the lens of NICK VUJICIC‘s life as an inspiration.

There are many meanings of the word love in the dictionary. Many people say that love cannot be defined and some say there is no love in this universe. Love is affection. When the word affection comes to our mind, it gives the impression of motherly love to their young ones. Another meaning is fondness. It means the liking of some material objects. Some say its kindness. Through kindness, love diminishes because of dependency. Another meaning is caring—if love is only caring, then out of sight! Is it so?
The word Love is misinterpreted by the word attachment. Attachment is the most powerful weapon of binding. The first attachment starts with physical body. Then all other attachments crop up. Attachment can be compared with strong glue that affixes the mind and misinterpretation starts with love. Attachment grows when there is pleasure. Whenever there is attachment, there is infatuated love and fear. Attachment brings misery and love cannot bring misery to life as love is bliss.
Then the question comes, what love is. Love is eternal life. Love is freedom, independence and perfection. Love is trust. In every relation the meaning is the same. Mother wants her child to grow according to her choice or her family’s choice. Is it then love? That means mother wants the child to be her asset. The husband says that he loves his wife the most and protects her every moment. He does all the work and does not allow his wife to do anything. Do you think that, it’s Love? He is indirectly making his wife dependent on him. Imagine if he dies or is transferred to other place, what will his wife do then? Is it Love then? She will be in a soup then for these days. Inversely same with the love shown by wife who makes him incompetent when she is away. If parents want their child to study what they want, whether the child loves to do it or not, then in later life will he be successful or happy? If happiness disappears from life, it is not an eternal life. If there is independence and freedom in any relationship it grows in a healthy way. Some mothers do not allow their son to go abroad or any other place for better job. They do not allow son to buy a new house for his family that means there is no freedom of mind. Is this the Love then? That means mother is taking son’s freedom away and then mental miseries begin. Love lifts the person into height of success. Inner talent flourishes when Teacher trust the students.
There are many examples of real love in this world. Love is giving independence and freedom to the individual. Then the person will live to the fullest. Love is giving freedom to think independently by trusting wholeheartedly.